I need some adivce. I met a girl a few months ago, she's 26 years old, beautiful, intelligent , caring...the whole package. Me, being 26 years old as well, kind of freaked out when I met her because she is completly different from my ex's. She is a "real person". She doesn;t play games and knows what she wants out of life.
My problem is this, i began to fall in love with her however she just came off a 7 year relationship and is only single for 4 months. She left her ex because he refused to marry her.
I know she is interested in me but she's affriad of her emotions. She wont even go out alone with me, our mutual friends have to tag along. It's so frusutrating because i know she is perfect for me and i cannot get her on date alone, not even for a coffee! Her best friend keeps on telling me to continue being her friend because she does like me. How long do I have to wait? What if I get hurt?
2006-08-12 13:36:22 · 7 answers · asked by Vince M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't try to pressure her into a more intimate situation. (By intimate I'm not talking about sex, although it's included, but I'm just talking about a one on one date type situation). You could be the very definition of perfect for her, but what she probably needs right now is time. The last thing you want to do is squeeze so hard that she slips out from between your fingers. Continue what you're doing. You can build on your relationship with her as friends almost as well as you could any other way. It'll just mean that much stronger of a foundation for the future. Give her time. Don't pressure her. I hope things work out between the two of you. In time.
2006-08-12 13:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tough to get over something like that, and she is worried about the same thing, ya know, being hurt. If you want her, you have to show her you are trustworthy. So, yeah...you probably are in for a bit of a wait, and I doubt you will be hurt. Just stick with it. If she is interested, and you are as well, there's no reason why this shouldnt work out.
2006-08-12 13:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jadeba12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes if you really want someone..you have to be patient. 7 years is a long time to be in a relationship and she maybe affraid of getting hurt, but she might be affraid of hurting you as well. I was married for 6yrs and when it ended it took a long while for me to get where I didn't hurt people anymore. hang in there.
2006-08-12 13:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be paitent with her for another month or so. Then is she still doesn't come around, move on. If she truly wants you, she will be jealous and come to her senses and date you.
2006-08-12 13:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sobelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes a bit of time to let go. 7 yrs is a long time. i think you should continue to take it slow because if you push you could lose her.
2006-08-12 13:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by *Sweet_Kisses* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know she is the one then you should wait it out .she will come around i time. just keep the communication's line open.
2006-08-12 13:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her, subtly until you have her totally off guard, and in your control.
2006-08-12 13:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋