My mom is soo rude......?

Question

My mother treats my stepfather like **** she makes him do everything (cleaning, going to the store when she needs cigs, and so on) and he does it even when he doesnt what to (because if he dont she will *****) they dont even act like a couple....she treats him like a slave!!! i never once heard her she i love you too him.... i feel terrible just watching letting her do this (because when i do say something my mom thinks i hate her or something) she doesnt even make supper so some nights he goes w/out food!! help me please what do i say to my mother to help her stop treating him like this?!

Answer 1

ask your mom and stepdad to sit down together and talk to them about it, or you can talk to your stepdad first. your stepdad probably wants you to say something, because he obviously doesn't want to be treated this way. Ask him what he wants changed and how he feels about you talking to your mom about it, and ask if he wants to be there when you talk to your mom, then that tells you if he wants/doesn't want to be there. Then talk to your mom about what you just said. Its obvious her attitude is rotten and needs adjustment. speak to her nicely and with understanding so she can't say that you accused her or hurt her or whatever. Tell her what she's doing is not nice and she needs to be nicer to him. Just say what's in your heart, because this is hurting you as well. i think you're so sweet to feel for your stepdad. hope everything goes well dear. my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Answer 2

It's so hard to really know what's going on in somebody else's relationship. He must be getting some love from her, or they wouldn't be together. I think your best move is to be loving toward both of them, and let them find their own balance.

If it really bothers you, though, find a time to talk to your mom privately and calmly. Say: "I feel bad when you don't show [stepfather] as much respect as he shows you." Then really listen. Even if she gets angry, she'll think about what you said.

Answer 3

I don't know what you can do about this, except try to be nice to him and offer to fix him some food. I hope your mom treats you better than she treats him. She doesn't sound like a very happy person.

Why don't you try asking her if she loves him? That would be a good start.

Good luck, you sound like a very caring person.

Answer 4

Unfortunately there isn't' much you can do. He is an adult who should have the courage to tell your mom in a polite way, he doesn't like the way she is treating him. On the days your mom doesn't make dinner, ask him if he would like something to eat especially if you're making dinner for yourself.

Answer 5

well try to talk to your dad maybe he cn help see how he feels about this this is a hard place for you to be placed but it happend if nothing else sit with your mom and tell her how you feel and reember a few tears may help get the point across and try to have your dad there to so the both of them see that it hurts you
let them know how you feel

Answer 6

As long as he puts up with it nothing you say will make a difference, just learn from it and treat your man with respect.

Answer 7

There is nothing you could say that would not alienate your mother if she doesnt see what she is doing. Lead by example and maybe she will follow suite.

Answer 8

There is nothing you can do. I guess your mother loves taking out her frustration on the guy. Believe me, even if you try to talk to her, she won't listen. Sadly, that's the way she is.

Answer 9

Sorry, but it isn't your place to say something. This is a problem between your parents, not you. Whatever it is between them, it has nothing to do with you, so you shouldn't try to get involved. It might only cause more problems.

Answer 10

Unfortunately you don't know everything about their relationship. Maybe she's punishing him for something and he thinks he deserves it. Maybe he's always been treated like this and doesn't know any different. It's not your battle, stay out of it.