I think it should depend on the wage. If I were a coffee shop worker and my husband was in construction, be darned he's going to work!! Same for if I was a doctor and he were a paperboy...
2006-08-12 13:09:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also, just so you know I understand that is not all about the money but we used to be poor and now we are a bit better off. Both of us are equal caregivers.
2006-08-12 13:27:45 · update #1
and my question is actually referring to who should stay home with the child to raise it. I am not talking about divorce at all.
2006-08-13 15:37:08 · update #2
Both if possible... Is rather irresponsible and shallow to think Money alone will will ensure the best future of a child. If you try to narrow it down to one thing deciding who would make the better caregiver you could include, who is more mentally fit? drug problems? smoker passing on second hand smoke? who will have more time for the child? (if one is working alot to make that money, will they be there to provide themselves and their time for the child?) who is better to teach the child manners and respect?
Remember what they say about it takes a village to care for a child, not one thing alone can ensure he/she will have the best future.
2006-08-12 13:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Gary 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Generally the law tends to side with the mother regardless of income. I don't know why this is because it isn't always the best case scenario.
Wages don't really come into it really. Even if the richer parent is granted primary caregiver, than the poorer one still has to pay maintenance.
Supposing the richer parent gets their money by dealing in drugs or prostitution, yet the poorer one is a regular church goer with a steady yet moral wage. Would you still consider it right for the child to live with an immoral parent because they have more money?
Ethically the title of caregiver should go to the one who is going to provide the love, protection and general well being of the child in question.
2006-08-12 13:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The primary caregiver should be the mother. She was connected to the child for nine months before it was born and the bond between the child mother is very strong during the first few years of life, and the mother should do everything possible to give the child the nurturing that only a mother can give, if she wants the child is to grow into an emotionally stable person. If that isn't possible, don't have children.
2006-08-12 13:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Deana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesnt matter what most people think, the courts award that position to the mother unless she has charges pending or a record od child or drug abuse. The courts feel that the kids are better off being raised by their mother;maternal instinct. Thats why they have child support and spousal support to cover the differences in incomes. Fair or not, its the way it is legally
2006-08-12 13:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both parents need to contribute. Kids really look up to their parents, especially the parent of the same sex. So if dad works all day, comes home and crashes and doesn't spend any time with the kids, they'll follow by example. If one parent isn't involved in their kids' lives, it could really scar the kids.
2006-08-12 13:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 11:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who ever has the most patience. Just because your a woman doesnt' mean that your automatically the best care giver. I know a few women that have no business being left alone with a child and I know several GREAT dads.
2006-08-12 13:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should both take care of the children, but the Father should be the disciplinarian and the boss.
2006-08-12 13:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
both,its important for a child to sense love and care from both parents,reasonable love and care from both is enough to bring up a good caring person :)
2006-08-12 13:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both, it took a man and a woman to make those children.
2006-08-12 13:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋