My husband WON'T be cuddly or loving at all with me! I question whether he even loves me. My sisters and I lost our Mom when we were kids and we are very warm and cuddly with each other. I would love to lay in bed with my Baby sister and just hug her,, etc. and my husband refuses to do that. I feel so warm and cuddly in the morning and want him to baby me. Why won't he just lay with me on Saturday morning and just do that! He's always like "I don't want to sleep anymore....I'm not tired.... etc. etc. etc." I am beginning to wonder if he even cares. If he loves me as he SAYS he does, then why can't he just give me hugs and kisses?!
I ALWAYS have to ask him for hugs. He NEVER hugs me on his own. NOTE: he is foreign and Muslim - I'm Christian and grew up in the U.S. - maybe everyone was right and I was just stupid to marry him. This morning he was so mean to me when I just wanted him to lay with me and cuddle. You think if I give him the silent treatment for a while, that will work?
2006-08-12 12:49:39 · 7 answers · asked by Mishy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This morning I was like, "it's bad enough I have to beg you to lay here," and he was like "well if I don't want to, why do you have to beg?!" - so then I started crying quietly and got ready to go, without a word (I had to go to my friend's baby shower). He has known me for over 6 years! When is he just going to get it?!
2006-08-12 12:52:26 · update #1
First of all, it is not related to his being a foreigner and muslim, i am an immigrant and muslim too, but i like cuddling my gf when i have for a long time. even caress her hair which i like when i go to bed but the thing is it is my personality and i like doing it, but urs personality is different and after a longwhile u cannot change a guy to let him cuddle you. it is just a bit difficult to accomplish it tho. but the other tactic thingy to treat him quietly dont think will bring a permanent solution to your problem. he will do for once or twice then stop doing it again. so, u better tell him that it is so very important for you...
2006-08-12 12:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by AllsTar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk for the way he's acting. I know this isn't constructive, but didn't you realize he was this way before you married him? Or did he cuddle you before?
I think the cuddling in the morning is one of the best parts of any relationship, but it's a fact that many people are distant.
Giving the silent treatment won't work because he's distant already and he probably won't notice it as something significant. I'd suggest some couples councelling if i thought it would work or that he would agree to it. The situation is very unfortunate for you and you are now at the point in a relationship where people start looking for someone to have an affair with.
I hope you work it out.
2006-08-12 12:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off all guys arent the same so because one behave some way doesnt mean the others dont.
Also, in some culture people are way less cuddly/touchy than in other cultures. You have to accept it but that doesnt mean people cant change. Just make sure your husband knows that it is important to you.
I dont want to be pessimistic but I think most people hardly ever change. Good luck though.
2006-08-12 13:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an american male and I am not a cuddly type with the woman I am with now. I always loved to cuddle in the past. The woman I am with now don't want to see a nude man and she don't like to be seen nude. It has complety stoped sex for the past year and there is little to no touching at all. But we get a long great. I guess it is turning in to a brother sister thing huh.
So it just depends on who you are with. He just don't like you as much as you like him.
2006-08-12 13:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god girl.. sounds like you are on a different wave lenght. Muslim men as far as i know are not overly affectionate, but if he just wont do it you have two options. To ask him when you want a cuddle and hope he gives you one, or leave his ***. Up to you i guess. Sometimes you just have to accept that you didnt marry the man you wanted...
2006-08-12 12:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might, but wouldn't you rather he hugged and kissed you or cuddled you because he *wanted* to? You are a very affectionate person - he is not. He probably can't (or won't) change any more than you will.
Accept his nature. Maybe one of these days, he'll surprise you! :)
2006-08-12 12:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha girl friend how many time have you said no , not now, get away , get off of me, etc. etc. and on deman you you mad when he wont do what you want when you want it ha call a spade a spade go look in the mirrow
2006-08-12 12:58:33
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