Ok, I spanked my son through all his life he is 16 now and he says Spank me harder daddy, spank me harder, and he says it in a girly voice, should I keep spanking or what I am so confused.
2006-08-12 12:44:17 · 33 answers · asked by SlapADog 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That moron who posted above is obviously not a parent and has no clue what he's talking about.
If your son is being a smartass and telling you to spank him harder, then do it. Use your belt if you have to, just be sure to spank only his bottom.
When I hit about 13, my Dad's spankings didn't really hurt anymore, but if I were to EVER smart off to him like that and say "spank me harder", I'd really have regretted it because his belt would've come off and WHAP!!! Yeah, that'd be the last time I smarted off to him again.
There's nothing wrong with spanking kids. Nothing.
As long as you keep it on the bottom and don't make them bleed, you're not doing anything illegal.
2006-08-12 12:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it might be time for some different measures, because he's to big to be spanked, or put on the boxing gloves. You should start taking away things he cares about like computer cords, ipod, telephone, ground him. There are many resources on the web that can help you with discipline. Spanking works when they are young enough to understand but now he's gotten over the spanking and needs much more discipline. Here is a web site that contains information that may help. But I don't believe that someone can tell me how to raise my son, so I take opinions into consideration and go from there. You have to go with what your heart tells you is the right thing for you to do with discipline. Discipline will only help in the long run and teach him how to be a responsible adult.
2006-08-12 13:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I can't believe you're so inept at being a father that you're spanking a 16 year old son. What he's doing is laughing at you and I can't say I wouldn't do the same thing. You sound like a control freak to me. This is not a child you're dealing with. this is a young man. I don't even agree with spanking a child, except in extreme situations. You have probably provoked this young man into being rebellious, just like my father did me. He has lost all respect for you. The only hope you have is to quit being the control freak you are and realize this young man has rights too. Quit demanding of him, shut your face and listen for a change. Really listen and understand then work out some kind of compromise that you can both live with. Rules that you can both follow. Let this young man grow up for crying out loud. You are not his master!
2006-08-12 13:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, your son is 16 and the time for spanking as discipline should have been over some time ago. He is a young man and you should sit down and discuss with him why you feel that he is not towing the line or whatever he has done to tick you off. I have been through this with my kids who are now 20 and 17, so trust me, they respond far better if you empower them to decide what their own punishment should be, within reason, and of course, depending on what he is doing to deserve it to begin with. Chances are he is just toying with you now because he sees that your spanking him is so ridiculous at his age, that he is morbidly embarrassed that you continue to treat him like he is 3 years old. Come on, give him some respect and maybe he will come around and give you some back. : ) Good luck.
2006-08-12 12:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states spanking a child that age is assault and you can be arrested. You need to resolve your differences without using anger and violence. Did you ever think that maybe all of your spankings have created a angry teenager?? I would immediately consult a psychologist that deals with family matters, and specializes with teenagers. I know that your parents probably spanked you and that is the only method of parenting that you know. It is time to heal your pain and to stop afflicting it to your son. You need to start taking what he values away from him. No car, PS2 would be gone. If he likes the computer take it away from him. But please remember that he also needs to know when he is doing something good and nice. Don't just focus on the negative. Try to find something positive about your son and compliment him on it. When you start treating him like a person, he'll respect you more and I think that is what really needs to happen. Good Luck to both you and your son....
2006-08-12 13:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the unexpected. Don't spank him at all. First of all, 16 is way too old to be spanked and he's probably using it as a form of revenge (and rightly so). At other times when he's behaving well, give him positive attention. Sounds like you both might need professional help. Whatever you do, DO NOT SPANK YOUR 16-YEAR-OLD SON.
2006-08-12 12:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by sonyas662001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am wondering why he is still being spanked at 16. that is a little creepy. how about this.. ENOUGH WITH THE SPANKING!!!!!!! jeez, if you can not control that kid, then bootcamp his butt or whatever, but he is obviously funning you, so stop. i can tell you this, some people might react to spanking and not do whatever it is that they did ever again, but then there are those who just laugh it off an dkeep doing what they are doing because a spanking is no longer a threat. he sounds like the latter. take him to church!
2006-08-12 15:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 years old he is too old for spanking. Try age appropriate discipline such as grounding, taking his favorite items away, make him do double the chores or all the chores in the house etc. If he is becoming a bad apple and hard to handle send him off to your local reform school for a weekend and let him get a glimpse of what he will become if he keeps up this behavior and let him know that you will not put up with his antics. If he is going to be disrespectful of you and your home then let him know there is an alternative. He can go live there permanently! My parents did this to me when I was about that age and it changed my life!
2006-08-12 13:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by nixinvestigations 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this is a joke. First of all, if you insist on spanking your 16 year old son you must keep in mind that one day he will be big and strong enough to put you over his knee and spank you!
Second of all this may be his way of telling you to knock it off with the spanking.
Third of all, why oh why are you spanking a 16 year old???? Take his car keys, take his cell phone, ban him from going out on dates, keep him from hanging around with his pals, but please, no more physical punishment. You are setting him up to believe physical punishment is the way to get people to obey him. He will beat his wife, spank his kids, and get thrown in jail for assualt and battery....mayhaps he will end up in the same cell as you.
2006-08-12 13:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Matilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters he is 16 what are you gonna do spank him until his 35? you should have stopped spanking him when he was 10 . take stuff away as punishments or at least ground him take his cell phone away or phone privileges you have spanked him so much it's a joke to him try a different way of punishment nothing cruel and inhumane as spanking
2006-08-12 13:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋