My sted-dad yells at me about everything. Nothing seems to please him. When I do my chores, he always finds something wrong with them. When I try to talk to him, even if I'm nice about it, he always yells at me. I'm not a bad kid. I make good grades, do my homework, and I've never gotten into any trouble. I've talked to my mom about it, and she always talks to him, but a day later, he's at again. Somestimes, it's like he's watching me and waiting for me to mess up. His words really hurt me. How can I talk to him?
2006-08-12 12:23:15 · 11 answers · asked by Aliza E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would try to avoid him and stay out of his way, he has issues about something and he seems to be taking them out on you.
2006-08-12 12:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could have some real issues going on that you are not aware of be polite and ask him to go do something together that he might enjoy like bowling or working on a project together and also let him know you need him by asking for help on homework or such even if you don't if all else fails ask your mom to get family counseling before it escalates! Goo d luck!!!Benn there is hard to be a step!
2006-08-12 19:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by crownvic64 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably is waiting for you to mess up. A lot of step-parents have a problem with the biological parents form of parenting. He probably thinks that your mom is too soft on you, so he waits for things that he can discipline you on. Unfortunately the more he comes down on you, the easier she probably gets so it keeps going. The problem is between your mom and him, but your stuck in the middle. Try having a family meeting to get some things out in the open.
2006-08-12 20:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately you are paying the price for not being his kid. Your mom needs to put her foot down because you are her child and you deserve to be protected. He is not even trying to get along with you. Your mom needs to tell him to cut the crap or get going. You should be number one with your mom. Talking to him will probably do no good but he needs to grow up and act like a man instead of an immature brat. You seem like you care or you wouldn't be asking this question. But you are going to have to harden your heart towards him as well in order to keep from being hurt. I hate to tell you to do that because this is no way to be but sometimes theres no reasoning with jerks like him. Your the mature in this relationship. Don't go out of your way to fight with him just ignore him and walk away when he starts yelling. Good luck sweetheart and keep being good. One day you will be an adult and you will be able to leave to go to college and make a better life than he has.
2006-08-12 19:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you can't talk to him; he's got the problem and you seem to be more mature than he is. Why does your mother allow this to continue? I suppose you could try telling him how much he hurts you when he talks that way to you, but it doesn't sound like he is the type that will be affected by this. I'm so sorry that you are in a situation like this, but ignore what you can and tell your mom the things you can't ignore. She needs to be your protector!
2006-08-12 22:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get counseling as soon as possible ... check the phone book or check in with school officials. Communication is everything. He sounds really ridgid and may not realize how mean he comes across.
2006-08-12 22:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by muddea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like a good kid to me. your step-father is a jerk though. doesn't sound like he's even trying to get alone with you. talking to your mom is a good idea, but she's not getting through to him. have a talk with your school counselor. verbal abuse is child abuse. if nothing else, they could can get the state involved, and they can force your step father to go in for counseling.
2006-08-12 19:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try writing him notes and letters, expressing how you feel.Maybe he's an alcoholic, and or really stressed over something else. Or maybe he's angry with your mother but taking it out, on you. He shouldn't but it's possible. It does happen.
2006-08-12 19:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you tried telling him how you feel maybe he was a step child at one time and thats all he knows maybe he needs just to be accepted too
2006-08-12 19:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by dkay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's possible he was treated harshly as a child and he does the same to you because that's all he knows.
2006-08-12 19:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋