the rumours have been about me "doing" alot of guyz...what should i do????
2006-08-12 12:17:42 · 13 answers · asked by Kristine R 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
and i havent "done" anybodi......
2006-08-12 12:27:49 · update #1
i told my parents...n the gudence councler....they didnt do anything....and i kno who it is..... * best friends boyfriend*
2006-08-12 12:32:41 · update #2
you should not pay attenting to that because people will be people just tell them if they ask it not the truth and maybe they are just jealouse of you ok? bye hope this helps you
2006-08-12 12:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a variety of ways of dealing with gossip.
You can take the “high road,” as many here have suggested, and it would be great if the world worked like that. The truth we all know however, is that few people take the high road, and so if you do, you will be up there alone.
Being defensive is never effective. Denying a rumor is rarely believed, and even if it is believed, it is less interesting than the rumor itself, and so it is not spread the same way the rumor is. Also when you appear defensive, it gives the rumor legitimacy, and makes people think it must be true. ALSO – being defensive is amusing, and makes you the butt of an even bigger joke – it is “getting a rise out of you,” and makes it more likely that people will gossip about you more in the future – just to see your reaction.
Ignoring the rumor is the fastest way to make it go away, and prevents you from appearing defensive. This requires however that people believe that you remain ignorant of the rumor. If people think that you know about the rumor, and don’t say anything about it, people assume that it must be true – or you would deny it.
If you cannot ignore a rumor, the only option left to you is to be aggressive and turn the rumor back on whoever started it. This is usually the best option – it deflects the rumor from you and puts it back where it belongs. If Jan is telling people that you slept with Mike, you correct them – you didn’t sleep with mike, you slept with Jim, Jan’s boyfriend, because he said that Jan couldn’t satisfy him.
In ALL cases, NEVER over react to a rumor. Always laugh it off like it does not bother you – especially when it does. Always be cool, and un-fuckwithable. If the rumor is that you got all Ds on your report card; correct the rumor “I didn’t get ALL D’s – I got 4 Ds and an F in Gym.” HAHAHA...
ALWAYS retaliate. If you fail to retaliate, then you have taught the person who started the rumor that there is no consequence to starting rumors about you – other than the rise in popularity they receive for being “in the know.” Be careful, wait until the last rumor has died down, and start your own rumor, or retaliate in some other way. DON’T get caught or you will look petty and mean (though even that can be managed and used to your advantage) and your rumor will backfire.
2006-08-12 19:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by ***** 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all the question is are you? and if so I hope you are protecting yourself even though 13 is too young to be having sex at all! Second, if your not having sex then you need to find who started the rumor in the first place and why?
Either way I think the problem needs to be addressed by an adult (your parents, school counselor) maybe by getting someone to intervene will squash the problem but most importantly there will always be someone who has it out for you or doesn't like you even if you are the nicest and coolest person to be around. You just have to learn to not let things bother or get to you, As long as you know the truth behind what is being said about you. Never let them see you sweat.
2006-08-12 19:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by divine diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to hold your head high and live your life with dignity. Only time, and your actions demonstrating that you are not "that" kind of girl, will make it go away.
2006-08-12 19:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a fav teacher or guidence councler you can go too it sucks to have such nasty rumors like that going around school. people can be so cruel and jealous
2006-08-12 19:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would say punch the person in the jaw that started the rumor, but that might be a little too rash.
2006-08-12 19:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleyy 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ignore the fools if your virtueous.
Wait til your older, and everyone around you grows up.
or stop sleeping around.
2006-08-12 19:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by No worries 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell the rumor starters that just cause they do everybody doesnt mean they have to blame it on you to make them look good...
2006-08-12 19:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by !It's Just Me! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the rumors aren't true just ignore them. If they are true just say the guys had small penis's
2006-08-12 19:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Mojo Rising 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OMFG u hav "done" alot of guys If i you i would stop having sex and get back to ur education Missy! Like wtf u hvaing sex that age makes u look lik a lil Slut !!! I WOULD MAKE LOADS of rumors about u if i was going to ur school. u should be a ashamed!
2006-08-12 19:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by London qirl . 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋