2006-08-12 11:52:27 · 16 answers · asked by susan j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi i just got back myself a month ago and when u first get home it's not the same because u feel u are still there. Give him a call and just ask him if he would like too talk if that don't work just give him some time i know what he is feeling. Good Luck
2006-08-12 12:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by uofsmike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a letter in the mail or send him an email, or you could leave him a message,
THINK ABOUT THIS:
He just got back from a horrible place to be, and he has probably seen unspeakable horrors that no one should see. He has spent too much time keeping his guard up, staying on alert for potential threats, following orders that sometimes don't make sense, living in conditions that would make you hurl, carrying around 75lbs+ of clothing and gear in 100+ degree weather......not having anyone he can talk to about his true feelings, fears and doubts, trying to keep his composure and not show any feelings, etc.
Give the guy a break. Give him time to readjust to domestic civillian life and relaz a little. Don't be needy or demanding. He has already given so much (a year of his life while the world kept on going, without him).....and basically ALL of his freedom to think, do, and choose things.....
Let him know that you are here for him, you love and accpet him UNCONDITIONALLY, and that you will be patient and let him open up at his own pace.
Avoid asking too many questions that would make him relive any bad experiences, and don't ask him if he thought about you while he was there. He probably did, at times, and wondered how and what you were doing....
Let him come around on his own, and don't force any social events on him. He has lots of things to do to "outprocess" like getting his medical records together, turning in various equipment he has been issued, etc. He is really busy, so don't become yet another obligation he has to take care of.
Leave him a message that when he gets a chance and wants to blow off steam, you have a great comedy you want to show him, or you want to cook him dinner, etc.
Put yourself in his place.....
2006-08-12 12:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a former US Marine myself who served in some pretty bad warzones I can say for him to only be back a week and not to call you 1 time in a week is normal...
The adaptation from bloody killing machine back to civilian takes time and you need to consider his time to rest and re adapt to a our part of the world after seeing hell closeup he just needs a little bit of time......
I'd say if he doesn't call you more then 1 or 2 times in the next 2 weeks give him a call and see if the same feelings are there they may not be i'm sad to say.....
Each of us who returns from a hellish nightmare like that copes in our own ways differently and you need to acknowledhge and respect that.....The person he was when he left may not be the same person he is now that he has returned home combat does that to a fellla sometimes.......
Hope to have helped.............
2006-08-12 12:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pale Rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember he just got back from Iraq...He must have alot on his mind, including you but you have to give him a break. He has to adapt to a whole new surronding again and that's not an easy thing to do. Give him some time, he will call you. Just be patient. Patience is a virtue. :)
2006-08-12 11:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a pest to him. If he just got back from Iraq, then give hime some time to catch up with his pals. Or maybe he doesn't consider you his girlfriend and has hooked up with another woman. I mean most troops want to get laid as soon as they get home ya know? If he really were your boyfriend he would have been there with you while catching up with his buddies. Sorry.
2006-08-12 12:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kyra B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're stuck between Iraq and a hard place.
2006-08-12 11:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt to give him a call, invite him over for a meal or something, just kinda see whats up with him. He could be decompressing from a lot of stress, or he could be digging being with his mom and dad.
2006-08-12 11:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you place the tension on now he possibly won't worry with you...provide him time to get his existence jointly, smoke 500 cigarettes or regardless of he needs to do. enable him be responsive to you would be around if he needs to hold close out.
2016-12-14 04:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
War should have been a horrible experience..! i believe he needs a bit of time to get adapted to what a normal life is .. give him time..and show him you that you really care if you do...try sharing with him his experience.. speak up about it.. aight ..cheers
2006-08-12 12:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by Nine05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some time. no one knows what he has been thru but himself. may be he just need to sort things out? or may be he is not interested in you anymore? give it a week or so then you should ask him and find out. may be is nothing serious.
2006-08-12 11:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by Yvette R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋