he is 18 and will be 19 in october and i am turning 18 on the 19th of this month.we our both maturing and we love each other we have been off and on for 3 1/2 years so far.his parents like me , but my mom is overprotective of me what should we do and he has a job and i am currently looking for one.what should we do?
2006-08-12 11:46:42 · 6 answers · asked by browneyed_kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but its been more on than off and we always consider ourselves as going out well so do our freinds he keeps coming back to me so..............
2006-08-12 12:05:00 · update #1
If ur on and off for 3 years i would say no cuz if u live together u cant aviod him cuz he'll b there at home which would give u guys no space which would lead to more conflicts in the realationship but its up to u if u have 2nd thoughts about it then it shows that ur not really ready to move in together. take it slow ur still young u have plenty of time but safe the sorry.
2006-08-12 11:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by John k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a commitment. Moving in with your man tells him your willing to give in and that you don't think much of yourself. An old wives tale "Why buy the milk, if you've got the cow for free!" Is too true. If you have a rocky relationship, this is really not showing anyone how mature you are. Mature people, date, fall in love, get engaged, seek marriage counsiling, then get married. The ones that do this are the 50% of marriages that last. Find a girlfriend and get an apartment with her, but never let him sleep over, or he'll be moving in. Then no more dates, he'll show up with pizza and a movie, expect sex and eggs in the morning. Your way too smart for that!
2006-08-12 11:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by sweathogwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only goin to say this not not disencourage you or disapprove but because my ex-wife and I did the same at the same, at the age as you are right now, right after High School.
Make sure that this is what you want and not because is something that you feel like you have to do, make sure that both you and your mate know and realize that once you move together there's going to be facing responsabilities and its about both of you now, not just your own person,what I'm trying to say is that if you guys thing you know each other long enough to know that you can count on each other on the ups and downs of this relantionship, then go ahead and move together.
But also keep in mind that there're many other goals that both of you should be thinking about like for instance "College", living with your folks allows you to finish school much sooner than living on your own, you wont have the time and or energy if you do this on your own, believe me I wish I would of stayed a my parents, after 8 years since HS I finnaly got a chance to go college.
Don't get me wrong maybe moving together is for the best, for both of you, but qoute me " Your actions have conseqences, maybe good ones maybe bad ones, but you can not go back in time to change your decission," and who knows maybe this will be a great decission if its what you really want.
2006-08-12 12:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom is overprotective???????????????????? I gulped when my 29 year old daughter informed me that she was moving in with her boyfriend as she felt she could better find out if she wanted to marry him. Because she was 29, she deserved to make her decisions......a 19 year old................please don't put yourself through an agonizing time for both of you. You've got plenty of time to grow up and it sounds like you are thinking about giving yourself more time alone.
2006-08-12 11:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your answer - now you are off and on, you have to wait with decisions like that until you're positive you are and wanna stay "on".
2006-08-12 11:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by aaja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better wait. You're far too young for commitment.
2006-08-12 11:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋