I have been talking to this older guy for like two years off and on online/on the phone. We seen to get along well and have a good time talking to each other. Of course, he indicates he is single, no children very much into his job. I know he lives within 1hr and half or so from me. He had set up two dates at the beginning. He canceled, same old stuff cause of work. After those cancelations I stopped talking to him. It's been and off and on talking like this for two years. We had a conversation two months ago online which supposedly he revealed his so called feelings for me. How he loves me and how scared he was at first he had these feelings for me. I was going with the flow of the iming and really didn't go to the depths like he did. I asked him why we haven't met and he said he was scared. It's three months later and nothing. He was away on business for like 3 weeks and now his mothers sick. At this point I know we will never meet. He hasnt ask? Whats going on?
2006-08-12 11:40:28 · 19 answers · asked by Rebecca J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say he is married
2006-08-12 11:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using the fact to says he's scared but what is he scared of' if you been talking to this guy on and off for 2 years he's has to be hiding something and blaming it on work. If he live only an hour from you why don't you invite yourself over if he care so much about you he shouldn't have a problem with you coming over,if you feeel the same way go for it.
2006-08-12 11:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by veefudge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. I've been in a few relationships like this and I know that I like to keep a distance from them. I have a fear of not being perfect. Even though I'm a beautiful Lady. Been hurt to many times with lies. Guys can really pull the wool over your head. From a small town
2006-08-12 11:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Coleen B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's waiting for you to say you have feelings for him too. I mean at this point meeting as friends isn't on his mind anymore. He wants to take you out on a date as his girlfriend, and seeing on how you really didn't go so far as he did with your sort of feelings, he's just confused, I mean really you just need to talk to him about it. After 2 years I think meeting is a really good idea. So well try to make him feel comfortable, but above all things don't lie to him. It will only make things alot worse.
2006-08-12 11:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by darkgothicshadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One or the two considered one of you are able to have been rekindling the 2d all the area became set between you 2. each and each of you spending an infinite quantity of time on the computing gadget and not conversing with eachother is obviously no longer wholesome. nevertheless, Im uncertain how the two of you didnt see or handle this situation as this became happening. surely, you cant be happy in a marriage working in that style. the two way, you the two persisted on that direction long adequate that it form of feels speaking and being intimiate with one yet another became distant places..Its unfornuate that issues have been provided that a strategies and in return you the two screwed up and all started venting and searching for out interest from individuals. besides the undeniable fact which you probably did it to boot and have been basically as incorrect for it, your spouse doubtless took it to an intense. even although this became completely on line, there is alot of harm here which will decide for time and staying power if it may ever be patched up. in case you question me, you the two could consult from eachother. In maximum relationships its the shortcoming of communique that makes issues head south and the two considered one of you have alot of artwork decrease out for you. If theres a wager in any respect, you the two could return to 3 settlement and you are able to set obstacles that neither of you are able to flow. in case you the two love eachother i actually experience that issues can artwork, yet back the two considered one of you are able to put in equivalent quantities of attempt. In hindsight, i wish you the two discovered from this. additionally, it wouldnt be unreasonable at this element to purpose marriage counseling to make the approach lots simpler. Your spouse is going to make to artwork so as which you will believe her. it incredibly is a few thing you and her the two could attain. back, considerable adjustments won't take place over nighttime, yet once you the two attempt I see wish for the destiny. stable success.
2016-11-04 11:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offsense but yeah he clearly doesnt *love* you.. cause if he did he would of done anything he could to come see you.. but he hasnt.. and thats also probably why he hasnt asked you either cuz he knows hes going to blow you offf again.. and since u guys only met online.. maybe he doesnt wanna meet you because hes scared that you might not like him? .. or that you expected something differently..
2006-08-12 11:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by love04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree with all of the above. no way this man is interested in you and doesn't want to meet you. is not across the country. next time he will say gas price too high. wait till it comes down and will drive over.
2006-08-12 11:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop corresponding with this man. I'm certain he is married. Change your email address and your phone number to unpublished. He sounds like trouble. There is no way he is in love with you - he has never met you. He is a loser. Be careful, please.
2006-08-12 11:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like HELL! 2 years is enough. You do not have time to figure him out and whatever game non game he is playing. Find someone that is REALLY into you. Keep it moving.
2006-08-12 11:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by sandiiiiii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... it could be so many things but most likely he is in a relationship with someone else. Either that or he is afraid that you won't like him once you see his appearance. Have you seen his picture or anything??
2006-08-12 11:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by purple rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably married with kids...who knows. Have y'all exchanged pics or seen his cam? Anyway, when y'all talk did he call you or you call him? Was it a cell? Anyway, be careful, but I think the man is married.
2006-08-12 11:45:28 · answer #11 · answered by Froggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋