i have found my self in love with my 1st cousin. i know it is wronge but no one can know what ive been though. all hte guys i hvae been with are liers,cheaters,and heart breakers. me and him hvae went though the same stuff in life and are soo much alike. he is about the only "guy" makes me feel like a young,beatiful women. he has been there for me when no one else has been. i talk to god all the time when no one else is with me and i have asked him to send me some one to share my life with. i have been alone for soo long that i forgot about love and life....and then one day he came to my house and we talked. we then went back to my grandma house and i stayed a week with him. i have told him things ive never told anyone in my whole life and he has done the same with me. and it hit me that my cousin is all ive eva wanted in a man......but i don't know how to tell him how i feel...and if i told him and he freaked out i don't want him to hate me! please some one help me.
2006-08-12 11:39:54 · 13 answers · asked by dazed--and--confused 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yes i know that it is wrong for me to love him and i hvae thought about just keeping him as a cousin wit benefits but that ould hurt me even more. i live a rough life and it is hard for me to even pass a day with out thinking about him or thinking about my life. thanks for the comments some of them helped. and i have did some resreach about loving yo cousins, and i read that cousins are only a few more % then the population with birth defacts. and if you think about adam and eve had kids and the kids did kids.....naoh and his family was left after the floods and they repopulated off each other. soo i want to be with him....and realy i do not care what people think because in my eyes that is just one less person that i do not have to worry about. and he is not my brother or dad or unlce or grandpa...he is a cousin and he has about the same blood as any one else....god says nothing about you can't love your cousin. and if it does not work out i want him to be atleast my best friend/cuz
2006-08-12 13:35:59 · update #1
Incest is a universal taboo because the probabilities of genetically carried disease or defect are multiplied in your offspring.
If you and he are irresistibly drawn into a sexual relationship, birth control becomes far more important. If you want to live together, you should move far away from anyone who would know you are related. If you want to have a baby, it should be through a sperm donor.
On the other hand, you could be drawn to him just because you're so lonely. People do freak out about incest, so be sure before you follow these feelings. And even if you are sure, be discreet. Good luck.
2006-08-12 12:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude i have an similar difficulty i have been laid low with very last 5yrs I actually were given into eating. the suited ingredient is to ignore her. I nonetheless dream that i'd be with her n stuff. yet we want to appreciate that we are talking about our cousin. end wondering about her. try searching a clean gf. and an extra effective ingredient u have considered how human beings react at the same time as u requested this question so merely imagine what can happen at the same time as your spouse and youngsters will come to understand. under no circumstances ever tell this to any friend. yet at the same time u want to take out your emotions so confer inclusive of your close acquaintances or someone in internet. reliable success
2016-11-24 22:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... First of all DON'T listen to most of these people, for they are complete idiots. It's completely normal to fall in love with your 1st cousin, love is an emotion, it's a part of HUMAN NATURE, your brain doesn't just turn off feelings for someone because they are close to you in that way. I would also like to add that cousins having children and they come out retarded or with other birth defects, is a myth, for example, did you know that EINSTEINS parents were cousins? Ya, it's true, it's not close enough to cause birth defects, and it's legal to marry your cousin in quite a few states. But, because most of the world thinks like the idiots that post on this thread, you can't go through with it, I know it's unfortunite, but your family and others that are close to you will not accept it.
2006-08-12 18:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by force_marker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are just confused. If you have been asking God to send you some one to share your life with and you got your cousin, then maybe he has a job in store for your cousin to help you meet the right man. Just because you are close to him doesn't mean that you are IN love with him. Spend some time apart from him to sort out your feelings BEFORE you say something you may later regret.
2006-08-12 11:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by {Lisa} 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should decide what is right and wrong, and the troubles this love may have with other family members in future. Weigh the odds and figure out what you want to do. This is your decision and yours only. Reading the answers here, you will read what you want to agree with. Remember, this is your life and not someone Else's, what makes your life happy is what counts, weigh the odds.
2006-08-12 12:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by clowdy4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats definately a no. you have to pray to God to take that love away from you because that love is not from God. Only satan would want you to be inlove with your cousin. God has the perfect man for you even if you cousin may seem like the perfect guy but God has someone even better but you really have to be patient and you probably have but just keep being patient. your better off not telling him about your love for him. but I know that being inlove is like one of the hardest things in the werld. and to just forget about someone you love or trying to stop loving him is even harder but God will give you the strength to edure all things. holla at me anytime if you ever wanna talk. prprincess196@juno.com. God Bless!!!!!!!!1
2006-08-12 13:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by boricuaangel196 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all have had that secret crush on our cute male cousin..so don't think you are the only one that had those feelings.. but you definitely don't want to go any further than talking...please don't.. I will pray that you will not be dazed and confused anymore.. God is not a God of confusion.. and you are a child of God...God bless and keep praying for strength..
2006-08-12 11:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by krsone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound corny, but I suggest u write down a list of ur cousin's positive traits 2 remind u of what u do want in a guy; but please do not have a romantic view toward ur 1st cousin or any cousin. He is family...a blood relative. Please don't become another "Jerry Springer" candidate... I know it can be lonely, but pray; let God send him; hang in there.
Happy Sabbath.
2006-08-12 11:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by karaokecatlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet he knows guys that are just as nice as he is. Ask him if there are any guys he would set you up with, on a date. Just don't ever tell him that you want to be with him. If you tell him that,I can guarantee you that you will ruin the relationship that you share with him now.
2006-08-12 11:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not cool. Bad. You're a bit dramatic, huh? How many people could you possibly have met and gotten close to thus far in life? Maybe you like him because you share 12.5% of your DNA and therefore he's a lot like you.
2006-08-12 11:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋