I'm 27years old with a 2 year old son me and his mother are together and live together but she is getting some kind of child care assistance and I'm ordered to pay child support because they don't know we live together I want to tell them but she does not .so every week 200 dollars comes out of my check and to the same house I'm living in and I don't see a dime of it someboody tell me do you think that is kinda rude of her or is it just me?
2006-08-12 11:37:13 · 30 answers · asked by Bouncer79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're a sucker. She's playing you and the government. Why don't you just ask her for your $$$ back? Let her know you get your $$$ or she loses her child care assistance.
2006-08-12 11:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by Dante 37 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it's wrong. If you are living in the same household, and you are contributing to the upkeep of the child and house, you should not have to pay any additional amount. What is she doing with the money? It better be going into some kind of a college fund for the child or something like that.
2006-08-12 18:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is not right. She is lying and you are involved in it too by not reporting that you two are living together.
I don't know if she would still be entitled to child care assistance. I don't know how it works if you live together but are not married.
I would think they would use both your incomes. If she is on Medicaid or somthing for the child, she might not qualify either.
I have a question for you.....You live together and have a child, did you ever consider getting married?
2006-08-12 18:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rude, maybe. Wrong, yes...she is basically stealing money! If you turn her in to dhs or srs whichever, she most likely would be disqualified from benefits, and possibly ordered to pay it back. Despite the fact that you are paying already, the difference is what would be owed. On the other hand, is this considered survival? how much would the day care be costing your household if you were not recieving the assistance? Could you afford to pay out directly to the daycare? Basically your family maybe getting a deal.
2006-08-12 18:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by stylist1281978 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, that really sucks! When a father is man enough to step up and be there for his family, the woman reacts like that! That truly pisses me off. I apologize, as she is the mother of your child. Although I feel like she is acting very selfish and greedy. You don't deserve that. You are living as a family being there for your child. As long as you contribute to buying the diapers and things he needs, then she has no right to ask for anything. I'm sure she doesn't go out and spend every dime of that money on her son...? I would want to change that real quick. Good luck..:)
2006-08-12 18:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It SOUNDS INSANE, BUT. . .
because you're not listed, she's able to get help, like State health insurance for your son, and maybe other help. I'm of two minds on this, because I understand where you're coming from, but you have to realize also, that your son should come first and foremost. He has insurance, maybe subsidized housing, help with food, etc. This may add up to more than $200. Also, it may hurt your pride, but what is your pride worth when it comes to getting your child good health and medicine when HE NEEDS IT? It's NOT ABOUT YOU OR HER, its about HIM!
Is HE worth IT?
2006-08-12 19:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone (most people) have a sense of right and wrong. Each time you cross that line of ethics (whatever it is) you destroy a little more of yourself. I have always been told that the truth is the ONLY thing that sets one free to live a joyful and contented life. I don't think I would be willing to cross that line of truth for anyone.....my spouse, my children or anyone.
2006-08-12 18:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Cassie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is how it works. If you weren't paying, and you guys broke up...then she could get you for BACK child support. Consider yourself lucky!
And since she gets it, how come you don't see it? Sounds like there is a personal problem there.
2006-08-12 18:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by FairyGurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry her and it will solve that problem. Of course it may create more. Yes I think it's wrong of her not to put the money in the general household fund. Of course if she's buying groceries and paying bills with it then you are seeing it. If she's buying new clothes then she needs an attitude adjustment. Just my thoughts. What do I know? I have dogs not kids.
2006-08-12 18:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by k9resq 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask her to marry you. If she doesn't accept it, that means that something is very wrong with your relationship. In that case, sue her and try to get custody - it's you who's supporting the child anyway.
2006-08-12 18:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋