i have been dating this guy for about a year. in this time i have caught this guy 3 times online talking and jacking off 1 time to other girls online. he says it was bc of the drugs that he was on at the time. sometimes i think that it is just me i mean this guy is not as into sex as i am if he gets it 3 times a week he is fine he does not like to make out or nothing like that he would perfure to watch tv or play poker online or mess with his car . he can tell me with ease that a girl on t.v is fine as hell but he can not tell me when i look good at all i have talked to him many times before about this and he has never cheated or got online since then but he still is not affectionated to me as much as i would like i love him to death and he says that he loves me too we even live together right now but i am not sure if he will ever be ready for the next step. is it just me or what? should i leave him or stay ?
2006-08-12 11:34:55 · 19 answers · asked by Kitty-cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him
2006-08-12 11:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by ♥I know these things♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already questioning him and your relationship, then I think it is time to get out of it. It seems to me you already know what you want in a relationship, you just aren't realizing it. I can tell that by the way you talk. You want a man who's going to be more affectionate to you, one who will tell you when you look beautiful, one who doesn't do drugs, one who pays more attention to you and takes you out on dates, one who doesn't mess around on the interenet, and one who is ready to commit, get married, and start a family. Is this guy mature enough for you? It doesn't sound like it to me?
Come on honey, of course he doesn't want to have sex as much as you because he is having cybersex! Plus if he's doing drugs he can't get it up. If you have caught him doing that, what is to say that he is not doing it when you are not around? He's already given you that reason right there to be suspicious of him. And who is to say that he's not met up with some woman he's met on the internet? You see, he's giving you a reason to question your relationship and trust.
My best suggestion to you is don't do what I did and stay in a relationship that is going no where just because you are trying to hold things together and make it work. You know what you want and you know that HE is no longer fitting in that equation or your future plans. Get rid of him now, before things get even more complicated than they already are. You deserve a mature, responsible, and faithful man who will treat you right and with the respect you deserve. One who is on the same level as you are and at the same point in life as you. GET RID OF THIS LOSER! There are plenty of men out there who love to date you.
2006-08-12 11:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should leave him, if you feel that he is not taking the time to give to you and gives time to other online then he is not worth being with. Plus the drugs. Go and find a decent person.
2006-08-12 11:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by turbine_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just you. Don't waste too much of your time trying to figure out what is wrong with him or if you should leave hime. Do whatever you believe in your heart is best for you and will make you happier.
2006-08-12 11:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unquestionably not! there is no evaluate staying acquaintances - confident, you would be acquaintances - yet for awhile - cuz whilst considered one of you shows somebody else, then you definately or your ex is history. it could become a vicious cycle of resentment, hate, or jealousy, or all the above! extra suited to make a sparkling destroy and pass on. have confidence me in this one! additionally, what's there to talk approximately after besides?
2016-10-02 00:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by innocent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd kick his *** to the curb! Anyone on drugs shoud have no place in your life. And, if he cannot tell you that you look good when you do, but feels free to comment on others, well, he's a loser, and you'll suffer great emotioal hardship if you choose to stay with him
2006-08-12 11:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by jasmine828_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if the guy is jerking off to girls on line then he doesn't deserve you... sorry but he is messing around with your head and it ain't the drugs.
one way to tell for sure is step on his nuts, he will spit out the truth what is going on real quick and if you don't like what you hear thenyou know what to do, stomp on them.
2006-08-12 11:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you should leave him if he'd rather check out woman on the t.v which he has no chance with then check you out he must not be the right guy for you. Dump him.
2006-08-12 11:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by sengimars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You don't need to waste your time on a man who doesn't give you the attention and affection you deserve.
2006-08-12 11:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like he's done anything all that bad,sounds like hes just young,love is supposed to be unconditional,we all have somethin wrong,the only thing you have to ask is can i live with his flaws,then youll have your answer
2006-08-12 11:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by lonnie198 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋