Mom Help! A parent of 2 teen guys?

Question

I am a mother of 2 teen guys one is 13 and the other one is 15. Today I left to go to the store for about 15mins when I was gone I came back and I saw both of them downstars sitting in our cinima chairs masturbating.I know they werent touching them because when I came in the door I saw them taking there cloths off. Should I put a stop to it of not? they don't know i know. I don't have a problem with them being naked but I'm not sure about them masturbating. Should I put a stop to being naked also? Also What if they keep doing it what should i do if they see that i saw them do it?

Answer 1

tell them to do that in there own bedroom or bathroom and alone

Answer 2

OK this is a normal thing for teenage boys but not to do it together. I would confront them and tell them that it isn't normal for two teenage boys to masturbate together. It is just weird and sick. They aren't 2 and 4 years old so yes they should be decently clothed around the house. Being naked should be for in the bathroom. If they share a room I wouldn't let them. How do you not know that they aren't doing things to each other??? Stop this now.

Answer 3

It is all about the education. Mom, do not hit any panic buttons here. It is natural for guys to go through this phase in their development. We express it differently however. The knowledge of the possibility of guys doing that obviates the element of suprise. Please, if you havent already done it, read or learn more about child development, get to know what the kids are going through, approach them lovingly while having a grip on what this is all about. Your approach is very important otherwise, it is not just the maturbation but everything else they do will be hiiden from you thenceforth; and the fact that you do not see something does not mean it does not exist With their love in your heart, I know u can do it so goo luck

Answer 4

The bad news: teenage boys masturbate. Get over it. They wouldn't stop even if they knew that you knew, they'd just get more sneaky about not getting caught.

The good news: contrary to what you've been told (probably in church), masturbation isn't harmful. It won't turn them into losers who can't get women -- men with regular sex partners actually masturbate more than do men who have none, according to surveys in several magazines (including Cosmo and Men's Health). Masturbation can even make a man a better lover if he doesn't race to orgasm or rush to avoid getting caught.

The better news, and a warning: if your boys are masturbating at 13 and 15, they're probably not sexually active yet. It's impossible to catch an STD from oneself, nor can a boy get his hand pregnant. But your having a talk with them about sex and what kind of conduct you expect from them (vis a vis how they treat girls in regard to sex and relationships) is probably overdue. You can also do something that no father can do -- you can teach them what a woman wants. Talk to your sons and teach them your values in regard to sex. If you don't, they'll work out their own values based on what they get from their friends and from the media.

Answer 5

It's time to sit down and have a heart to heart with your boys about their bodies. masturbation is normal at that age. they may need a little guidance on etiquette though. This may be difficult because it may cause you to examine your feelings on the subject, but it is not about you, it is about them and their needs. The mid teen years are very important in the development of sexual tendencies for young men. It is your responsibility as a parent to instill confidence and understanding that their sexual organs are alive and functional. Please do not leave it up to the educational system or their friends...You must be a "parent" to your boys. After the first fifteen minutes of laughter and embarrassment, they will learn that they can ask you questions openly, communication is going to be the key, if they can talk to yo about this, they will feel more comfortable listening to your suggestions because they respect your opinion!!

This is a difficult task, but I am sure you can do it!!

Good luck!!

Answer 6

I am the single parent of two boys ages 18 and 20. I had found "evidence" of them masturbating when I went into their rooms to get dirty laundry to wash (thank God they do their own now). I never said anything to them. It is a normal thing for them to be doing. I would never even think about confronting them about that. Just let them be.

Answer 7

Masturbating is normal and not wrong, but it is kind of weird that they did it at the same time and that they got naked. Tell them to do it in their room or in the shower only. Masturbation should be done in private and you shouldn't have to clean up someone else's mess.

Answer 8

I don't think its appropriate for any person of any age to masturbate in a public area ( that also means in busy and family areas of your home) i also advise that you address the situation and let them know that if they are planning on to continue this ask of them to only do it in the privacy of their bedrooms. it is not a public affair for everyone to see. I also think the boys should not be stripped down completely naked especially in front of each other , this task that they are doing is perfectly normal but does not need to be done in their birthday suites.
i hope my advice was some what of a help to you.

good luck with them

Answer 9

You're the mom. Put your foot down and tell them that it's not acceptable, and if they must do this, tell them to only do it in their bedrooms.
Maybe if they know you know, it will deter them for a while, or at least make them more careful about where they do it.

Answer 10

The playing with themselves is just fine....what I would worry about is why in creation they would want to do it in front of each other? That is some messed up stuff right there...take them to a shrink over that issue.

Answer 11

Look at it this way... As a mother, would you rather your sons masturbating, or having a girl take care of their hormones for them?