After over 3 years, I'm so stressed out. Every thing is a lie and if he does tell me the truth once and I don't believe him, he gets mad.He won't open up and communicate with me, he's like a cardboard man with no soul.And I love him, and yes, I'm seeing a therapist. I need to communicate emotionally with him and he can't open up. What is wromg with him?????
2006-08-12 11:01:04 · 18 answers · asked by diecast_heart 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Has the therapist suggested dumping this loser? Cause that is what you need to do.
Of course, the therapist might not suggest that, because then you might regain your own legs, and will no longer need his or her services.
There is no other solution. Love is tough, but being abused emotionally or physically is 10 times worse. Make that 100 times worse. Find a man worth your love.
2006-08-12 11:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by powhound 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are many men who find it very hard to communicate, especially if it is about feelings of the heart.
You have been with this man for 3 years and, in that time he has treated you very badly. You may not realise it, but by staying with him you have left yourself become his comfort blanket. He stays with you because you forgive him etc. He seems to enjoy hurting you or he would have stopped doing it.
You need to break things off for your own health and sanity. There are lots and lots of men who will give you the love, commitment and security that you need and deserve.
Breaking any relationship is hard, but at the end of the day hun, he hasn't exactly been the best partner so would losing him really be the end of the world?
Take a good hard look in the mirror. Who were you before you met this man and who are you now?....... was it worth it?
You know what you have to do, you just need gentle guidance to take you that extra step.
Speak to your therapist, listen to their advice and look after yourself.......... you deserve it and you are most definately worth it!!
Good luck
2006-08-12 18:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, it could possibly be time to throw up your hands and walk out. There is only so much you can do, and if he's not trying with you it will never work. Each person has to give 100% to make a relationship work.
My first husband was just like that. I think inside he gave up on me and was just using me financially. I found out he cheated on me with a 15 year old girl. And the lies that he told this girl about me were so hurtful. I remember the day I kicked him out....I remember that as a good day, and that is the day my life really started. Now I found a man that is giving me so much more than my first husband, and now I truly understand what love is. Don't sell yourself short, get a back bone and move on with your life...trust me, YOU WILL actually be happy.
2006-08-12 19:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well commonsense will tell you u need to move on , what is ia relationship without trust, u mite love him but do he really love you I use to be in a situation like dat but I let her go cuz all we did was argue, then she would lie to me bout anything like I was dumb or something then I noticed mistakes she made when we talked she was cheating on me with other dude. Dats why u goin crazy b/cuz of him find somebody you happy with he aint da only boy out there!
2006-08-12 18:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy . . .but I'd imagine the only reason a girl would stay with somebody like that is if they have no respect for themselves. Do you respect yourself? Or do you deserve better? Liars and cheaters are NOT the sort of people you need to surround yourself with.
Good luck my Friend.
2006-08-12 18:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to go to the therapist too. If he wont get help, then you need to get out of the relationship. It doesn't sound like it is healthy for you to be in this stressful relationship.
2006-08-12 18:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot wrong with him. I doubt if he will really change. I am happy you are seeing a therapist. I hope you get the courage to leave him. You deserve better.
2006-08-12 20:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would be no way in he double hockey sticks that i would stay with this guy! I know you say that you love him but there are other guys out there that you can love just as much that would do you right. if he hasn't opened up in 3 yrs. i highly doubt he will now.
2006-08-12 18:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you've spent 3 years. So much to tell. In short, it's time to move on.
2006-08-12 18:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put itching powder in his briefs or boxers. The cheating idiot will think it is an std! Watch him try to take care fo the situation without telling you!
Then, KICK him to the curb!
He won't ever stop, TRUST me!
2006-08-12 18:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by FairyGurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋