We just gotta puppy and i dont want it what do i do?

Question

we just got a golden retriver puppy today and 6mth ago we lost our belovide golden retriver of 9 yrs to cancer and liver faliure. Now my parents decided they wanted a puppy since ill be out of the house and off to college in a few year and i just told them my feelings of not wanting the puppy, But they got him anyways but told me to ignore him if i like and that i have no responsabitiy since i didnt want him i dont have to partake in the care either. but i feel wrong to ignore him becasue its not his fault. But now i dont know what to do with myself 'casue i find that i cry alot about the loss of my previous retriever and dont know exactly why i dont want him. if someone could give me advice on what to do in this situation that would be a big help so i dont have to keep asking my self

What do i do 'casue i dont want this puppy while every one eles does?

Answer 1

You're still grieving for your other dog and feel like another dog can't take his place in your heart. And that's okay. He's not supposed to take his place. He's a whole new dog with a whole new personality. Your parents want him and are taking care of him, so let them enjoy their new dog.

Meet the puppy on your terms. It wouldn't hurt to pet him, because he is just a baby and he doesn't understand about the other dog. There's no way he could know. You aren't required to fall madly in love with him right away. Respect your parents right to invite another dog in and if you don't want to get involved you don't have to. Just don't be mean to it (as I'm sure you wouldn't, you certainly sound like an animal lover to me). You may find as time goes by that he grows on you.

I had two Great Danes and one died and the other almost grieved herself to death. I bought another Dane for her. I was absolutely not ready to replace the one I lost, but was afraid I'd lose the one I had left if I didn't do something soon. She perked right up when I showed up with the other Dane. I of course took as good care of him as I had my previous dog. Petted him and paid attention to him. I wouldn't neglect an animal in my care in any way. My heart missed my old dog, but this dog found his own special place in my heart too. He wasn't anything like the one I had before, but that didn't mean I couldn't love him too. I think you find that after a while you'll have an affection for this new dog too.

Answer 2

You just went through a very traumatic experience. Give yourself some time to recover. People don't realize how important pets become in their lives, and when you have one for such a long time, when they die, it's just like losing a family member. It's hard. But...it's not the puppy's fault. Don't think of the puppy as being a replacement. What would your previous dog want you to do? Would your previous dog ignore the puppy? Or would they try to get to know it? The puppy is just that...a puppy. If anything, you'll be gone for college soon, and won't have to deal with it anymore. But, by asking the question to begin with, it seems to me that this is more of a question about yourself, not the puppy. You said you don't understand why you don't want him...you don't want him because you want your other dog back. That's all. It's going to take a while...but in the meantime, treat the puppy like a puppy. It's just a little furball that wants love and attention, and will be just as faithful to your family and your emotions as your previous dog. Don't ignore it...it could damage any chance of having a loving relationship with it in the future, when you start getting over the loss of your other dog. Don't worry...you'll get there.

Answer 3

What your feeling is perfectly normal. Losing a dog is a very sad experience. It's no different than losing a family member or a friend. Sometimes people think that just because a pet dies you can easily replace it with another and it will all be okay. Give yourself some time. This puppy can never replace your dog but he can be a new friend. And yes your right it's not his fault he just wants your attention. Who know you may find some comfort in this new pup. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well it up to the parents about the puppy. Puppy's are so beautiful and sweet. You might just need to get to know the puppy and give it a change. It needs a home. We all loose our beloved pets. It is just life that this happens. God wanted you other one with him. And now he has giving you all one back in its place. I have lost alot of mine, but I have a heart and I know that any animal I get i'll do my best to take care of it. A dog is a persons best friend. I have had dogs that have been nicer to me then people has. You can tell by looking at animals if there mean or nice.

Answer 5

First you get a grip on yourself.
You are mourning the loss of your dog and that is normal.
But to deny the rest of the family from moving on with life is wrong on your part.
You are correct in one aspect and that is the puppy had no choice in the matter. So don't neglect the pup.

You can still mourn for your dog at the very same time you are holding the new puppy in your arms.

Example - If a relative dies, do you no longer want any one to have a baby?

Of course not, so don't deny them the puppy either.

Would you hold that new born baby? Of course you would !!!
So hold that new born Puppy.

It's sad but it is life, and the rest of us that are still here have to move forward.

At the very least I hope this made sense.

:o) Smile for the good memories and not frown because they stopped.

Answer 6

Your can honor your previous dog's memory by being a loving person to the new puppy. You must know in your heart that your old dog would never want to see you still suffering over his/her departure. A friend never wants to see a friend suffer.

The new puppy will never replace your old dog. It isn't supposed to be a replacement. It is a new friend that you are rejecting because of your pain.

Only you can give yourself permission to heal. Maybe it's time.

Answer 7

if u really dont want the puppy then u should tell the people that got u the puppy that u dont want it or u could try to lik the puppy.wen u give the puppy away then thats wen u r going to want the puppy not to go and u r going to want to keep it

Answer 8

When I was teen, I lost my wonderful dog..I did not want another dog, but my parents got one anyway...They told me that I could just ignore her....It didn't take long for the new dog to steal my heart..I discovered that it was OK to love another dog, and that I could still keep the memories of my old dog...
So, just be patient, and you can try to ignore the new dog, but I'm betting that he will steal a corner of your heart before long..
The new dog didn't ever really seem like my dog, but she loved the wholde family..so I didn't miss her so much when I moved out a few years later..

I think your dear dog wouldn't want you to harden your heart against another pup..Dogs have huge hearts to love, and your dog would want you to keep loving.

Answer 9

Open your self to the puppy and take him with you pets are really good at understanding feelings and will always be there for there friends

Answer 10

you dint want a new puppy because you dint want it to take the place of your old dog...but you have to realize that it wont!!! it like say...i know this sound mean but if you aunt died and your uncle remarried....the new aunt wouldn't replace the old one!!! her memories would till be there....i think you are just worried that everyone will forget about your old dog!!! that never happens my dog died and my parents got another one...i luv the new pup but ill Never forget the old one!!!!!

memories dont die!!!