Is it ok for a guy to leave you because his mom told him to?

Question

I met this guy and he was so sweet and amazing. We dated for about 9 months and his mom was always nice to me. Then all of a sudden she started saying she hated me and that i was a ho. I dont understand what i did wrong to her because i never even looked at another guy in that way after i met him. Anyways she told him he had to break up with me because as long as he was a minor and lived in her house that he had to date who she chose for him. Even though he told me all the time he loved me..Is it ok that he left me because his mom told him to?

Answer 1

If he is a minor...he didn't have much choice, if he wanted to have a home...unless he could move in with you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If he's under her thumb that much, better to find it out now than later. If you had stayed together for a few years, gotten married, had children, and his mom was still dictating to him, what kind of a life do you think you would have? There are no laws that say a minor living in his parents' house has to date whoever she chooses for him. That went out with arranged marriages, and purchased brides. But the fact that she exercises that much control over him is a warning sign. Especially as he says he loves you, but still left you.
Best thing to do at this point is just back away. No good will come of seeing him clandestinely, and that will just blunt your chances of finding another guy who has a stronger character. But don't rush into another relationship. You two were together for nine months, and it takes time to heal. Rebound relationships are seldom sound ones, so give yourself a few months before you get back into the dating circuit.
Good luck to you.

Answer 4

First of all, if you are both minors, you and your boyfriend should concentrate on your studies. You will become another "statistic" of a pregnant teen or a child having a child.
Forget about sex or stop it because you will become addicted to it. You are too young for that.
Finish high school first and go to college. You will have a bright future at the end of the tunnel and not be another number in the drop out list. You will have all the sex you need in the world when you are mature enough to be responsible in all your future deeds.
Have a good relationship with your mom so that you do not need to ask anybody.

Answer 5

well there isn't much he can do, I had the same sort of experience with my girlfriend, I screwed up big time by saying she was "sexy" on her myspace all the time, my girlfriend thought it was sweet, but her mom freaked out and called the cops. So well she had to stop talking to me too. But well just give it time, I mean somehow meet up with him and ask him what he wants to do, me and my girlfriend are talking every so often, so we are together it's hard, but at least we are still together, and we do love each other alot. And we've had our rough times with parents. So well just don't lose hope yet. See what happens, and as to why his mom all of a sudden hated you, somebody must have said some nasty things about you. Had to have been something that you are a slut or that you only want him for sex, or you cheat on every guy you date, something really horrible on that level, so well just wait for her to cool down, and still see your boyfriend. And well when he says it's all ok, just sit down and ask to talk to her, and if you have to beg her to hear you out, and then just ask his mom, see what she has to say. Maybe it's all a misunderstanding, so well who knows.

Answer 6

This is pretty sad that you and this guy had to break up because of his mother, but if he's a minor living in his mother's house and she's taking care of him then he has to follow her rules. It sounds pretty stupid, but this is how it is. Usually teenagers will continue to see the othe person even if the parents don't want them to, but they do it in secret. I really feel bad about this situation for you especially if you two got really close to each other, and things were going good. Your young, and I wouldn't sit around moping about this when there are other guys out there, and you do have a life to live. Don't let your world revolve around this, otherwise you will find yourself very unhappy and depressed. Get out there and continue to live life. These things happen you just have to hold your head up, and keep getting up. Good luck!!!

Answer 7

If this man is over 18 years of age, and broke up with you because his mother didn't like you..then you should be thankful it happened sooner than later, if you catch my drift. On the other hand; as someone already stated here, If he is a minor and wants a roof over his head and food to eat..(unless you are willing to provide the necessities of life for him)... there is nothing you can do change the circumstances...Good luck..

Answer 8

Well it might hurt a bit but it's probably for the best.
Moms obviously way too attached and would make you and him miserable. Some guys do whatever mom says and some don't.
you probably did nothing wrong.
I am mother of a teenage son and daughter, I might not like there choices in boy/girlfriends unless they are doing something harmful to them i stay out of it and let them learn on their own.

Answer 9

well, if he said that he loved u and everything then there is no reason in the world for u 2 to break up, love does not have boundaries and shouldnt,

first of all........u and him were dating not his mom and u, so she has noright to break u two up

second of all.......its his decison who he wants to be with, he is the one his mom

third of all..........thats just stupid for his mom to pick out the people that he will date and not date, she just gonna be lookin for wat she likes not for wat he likes, so thats never gonna workout

basically im just sayin that it is up to him who he dates and who he doesnt date

and if u 2 wanna be together then u 2 should be together becuz it is yalls choices and love does not have boundaries

then again if u are young it can be hard to just say no and talk back to the parents but that still does not give them the rights to say who and who u dont date...............

if there is no way around this...just make sure that u 2 remain friends as long as possible until u 2 can get back together

good luck

Answer 10

You didn't specify age.
If he was a minor perhaps his mom was concerned that it was getting too serious too soon.
I am not saying what is right or wrong in his mother case.
It sounds like you are too young to get into anything too serious
You still have a lot of new things to experience in your life'
Be patient for Love.
Have a nice day

Answer 11

Since you're not married, no rules exist as to what reasons someone is allowed to use to end a relationship. It's "OK" to break it off for any reason he chooses.

As for the reason he used - real or contrived - ask yourself, "Do you want to commit to a guy that can't stand up for himself, especially when you're on the line?" Even if he really WANTS to stay with you, he's too fragile to depend on.