how can my boyfriend last long enough to make me have an orgasm?

Question

During sex, the better and closer i feel to having an orgasm, the harder it is for him to continue. He says it feels so good, that it makes it hard for him not to have an orgasm. So its a battle.

Answer 1

time will certainly help. the more yous go at it, the better he'll get. most guys are told to think about baseball. or to picture something disgusting. but most guys cant' pull that off anyway

masterbation a short time before the act is helpful. perhaps you could do so at the same time, or help him do so, in ...other ways. then engage in other activities that don't involve his piece, that focus only on you, for a short while, before attempting to use his tool. just because a guy has already come, doesn't mean that he's outta the game

Answer 2

There are many techniques you can try as a couple, but given your description of the situation as a "battle", it seems the issue here is his willingness to delay or possibly forego his pleasure (at least some of the time) to satisfy you. I would discuss this not necessarily as a sexual performance issue, but rather as a partnership/sharing/mutual happiness issue. You can explore techniques to delay his orgasm, but if he is never successful or if he maintains that it's just too difficult to do so, I would say the issue may be more about selfishness.

Answer 3

He needs to learn better control.Perhaps he could masturbate a short time before sex.There are also condoms that contain a numbing cream that will help delay his orgasm.Long foreplay will also benefit you as you will be that much closer to orgasm when he enters you.Hope this helps you.

Answer 4

Put on a condom on him to lessen his sensation. He can try Kamasutra Gel at Lover's Lane. Maybe he doesn't care about making you feel good as long as he gets his. Try sqeezing the base of his shaft tightly so he doesn't. If none of these work I'd dump him. There are plenty of guys that know how to use their tool. You'd be better off.

Answer 5

Take more little breaks in between during intercourse. Switching to other sexual activities will increase his endurance by giving him a break, and it will also make your orgasm more intense as tension mounts between activities.

Answer 6

I would suggest more foreplay, especially performed on you. It will get you turned on faster while not putting as much "effort" on him so that you will be further along when he starts, increasing the chances that you two will end closer to the same time.

Answer 7

he needs to learn better control

he should practice taking himself cose to the edge and then backing off slightly

in the short term learnignt o control his breathing - deep slow in and long slow out will delay it a little

but practice to understand his own sensations is needed

spending more time on him pleasuring and getting you ready with foreplay will help as well

every man can learn to be a better lover

but not every man will be a great lover!

Answer 8

maybe u shouldn't tell him when u r getting close because that'll arouse him more.

also, sounds strange, but u should tell him to masturbate more. if he's "releasing himself" infrequently or only when he sees you, then that could be the reason why he explodes so easily/quickly.

lastly, u could try to use a vibrator while u r w/him so that u can get your big O, too.

Answer 9

I had that problem too. the only thing that worked for us was time-a long time (2 yrs)until he could go long enough to satisfy me.

Answer 10

he could try using a cock ring , its just a small round piece of plastic thats placed at the base of the penis . that may help hold off for a bit , you can find various ones at this website http://www.adameve.com/sextoys/cock-rings-c-504.aspx.