As a Christian, I have always struggled with lust problem?

Question

I am a 24 yr old Christian man and regrettably I have always struggled with lust. Although I am refraining from sex till marriage, I have hard time controlling myself looking at hot, sexy girls on campus or on the street. I masturbate regularly and even watch porn sometimes!
I prayed to God so many times for help by saying following, "Dear God, I certainly feel blessed and really appreciate about the fact that I have total control against drugs, alcohol, tobacco, sex. I really thank you for that. But this lust problem, how I look at women, my porn habit is really making my life miserable. I don't want to associate with any of those things so I can become a better person. But it is hard, so hard for me to overcome myself. I really need ur help as I can't do it alone. Please help me, Dear God. Amen."
The progress has been slow despite my prayers to God. I know He is listening and knows how much I wanan be free of this lust. Can anyone offer me advice?

Answer 1

be patient....you have to wait and trust God..know that God will help you in time!

and you have to work on it for yourself also!

Answer 2

I myself had the same problem you did,but I had it worse.I gave in to temptations so many times and then felt awful about them after wards.My life was full of lust I continued to pray and the more I prayed it seemed the ore temptation I had to deal with.Satan knew this was my weakness and he sent women in my direction to succeed in his master plan to make my life miserable.It takes time and a whole lot of praying to overcome lust.Its a very strong demonic force that can wreak havic on you and make you feel almost like God is not helping,but he's there. Don't ever fall into the lie that God is not hearing your prayer because you continue to do the things that your praying about to stop.That is a complete lie from satan.You continue to pray and it will get better and before you know it,you will no longer feel Lust tugging at you to do what your trying so hard to stop..

Answer 3

Every one has demons they deal with. You sound like you know what yours are and you sound like you want help to over come these demons that plauge you.

First, know that God loves you, and wants to help you, however as with any addiction, overcoming that addiction will be a hard process, but not an impossible process. But when you are addicted to something, in this case, pornography and masturbation your moral judgement can and will become clouded, despite what popular thought and society will tell you, and you will become a slave to these addictions.

The scriptures tell us "ask and ye shall recieve." And God does keep his promises. One thing that I do know is that you can find forgiveness and the joy of repentance if you truly want it and are willing to surrendur your lusts, passions and wants to God.

There are several things you can do to help yourself overcome your problem. FIrst, do not put yourself in a situation or place where you know you will be tempted. When you do feel weak, do something else, sing a hymn, read the scriptures, say a prayer, chew gum, go on a walk, do whatever you need to to get the temptaion out of your head.

Second, find some one you can trust, and who will not judge you and in whom you can confide to help you. You might try talking to your pastor or priest for guidance. And in the case of pornograpy addiction, you can get counseling for that.

Third, you might consider discontinuing your internet service, or get a really good filter. If this is not an option, set limits for the internet, and tell them to a friend or some one you can trust. Make sure they follow up with you and give you reassurance.

Finally, you might feel that you will never overcome your lusts and wants, but you will. Just be strong, God does not give us more than we can handle and he will guide you as you journey toward him and are willing to overcome your weaknesses.

Good luck and may you be blessed in your efforts.

Answer 4

One thing that my help you is to be a part of a small group of people who you are accountable to. Sometimes if we know we have to tell a person what we viewed on the Internet in the past week it helps us to avoid sin. Many people go through the same struggle you face and can help you. Getting married is not at all the answer, it will most likely not heal you. For another perspective on sex visit anti-sex websites. Your culture dupes many into believing sex is necessary when it is not. Get some counsel, a good group of godly Friends and try to develop a counterculture perspective. When you do those things you are showing God that you are serious, and he will give you victory.

Answer 5

Oh my.

Well, if it is any consolation, everybody has something that could possibly lead to their downfall if they were to become consumed by it. My "Achilles' heel" is pride. Others' Achilles' heels are other of the Seven Deadly Sins. It is part of being human--to have a specific failing that can be exploited by God's enemy.

I don't know how to answer your question in a responsible way, because I don't want to give you some trite stuff that may or may not apply to you.

Some things to consider, though, are the following:

1) While some consider masturbation to be a sin, it is not one of the Ten Commandments. Therefore, you may not be in immediate mortal peril if you engage in it from time to time. You might try asking God for clarity first before you ask him to help you stop. It may turn out that his answer is that you need to stop, but first find out from the source (God himself).

2) Sexual arousal is not a sin. It is part of life. If you find yourself aroused, it is part of your physical nature. It might be a good idea not to bash yourself over this. Learn to distinguish between arousal and lust. They are different. Physiological occurrences are not character flaws. Lust is a different thing from arousal. Ask God for clarity on the distinctions. In other words, learn what the sin is before you go assuming that you are sinning at all times.

3) You could ask God for the power to do his will, whatever his will might be. If his will is that you refrain from self-gratification, ask him to give you the power to do it.

4) If you are miserable and addicted to porn, you can seek professional help for that problem. Porn addiction can be as bad as drug addiction.

5) Seek competent spiritual counsel. You shouldn't go this alone. On our own strength, we are weak. With others who are seeking God's will, we become stronger.

Answer 6

Take out all the things that give you lustful thoughts and throw them in the trash. If its the internet then set up a pornblocker

Next pray to the holy spirit to give you strength. And know that you are the master of your own thoughts. So when a lustful thought comes in your mind replace it with something Godly or heavenly or even pray to keep your mind right with God.

Also read Philipians 4:8

Answer 7

First i must say that i admire your devotion to Christianity which has become so rare these days....=(. I am a Christian myself and your question caught my eye when i saw the words "as a Christian". So, Christian to Christian i will try to help you although God is the real helper. Lust is a form of temptation utilized by the devil and the way i see it, it is one of his strongest weapons. temptation is extremely hard to control and repenting is a good way to get this lust off your chest. The best thing you can do is to restrain sex until marriage because that is how He intends it. Every Christian on earth has this same lust problem and honestly, i dont believe it can be controlled 100%. It says in the Bible to "pluck your eye when being lustful" and please do not take this literally but it simply means to stop yourself from falling into this temptation. That is the most i can help. Ask for forgiveness and you will be forgiven. God Bless

Answer 8

Are you for real...Let me tell you something. I have a very good relationship with god and I do not see anywhere in the bible where jesus says no man or woman can make love when they love each other unless there married. Maybe it's there but I have only seen mans intrupation of it. That is not the same...There is a difference between gods law and mans...It does say in the ten coman. can"t sleep with a married person but nothin that I know about a single..Not only that man wrote the bible and I don't see anywhere jesus saying that.

Answer 9

Don't eat up yourself over it! You are human! We are not perfect beings like heavenly bodies! The way you feel is perfectly normal for a young adult male. Lusting behind women is perfectly normal and natural! If you choose to wait till marriage that is fine too! You are not doing anything wrong and you will not go to hell. Trust me!!

Answer 10

God will help you keep praying about it and wait on the Lord

Answer 11

you don't have control over sex if you wack off to porn every day.