4 years ago I screwed up big time. I had a relationship with guy "A" for 2 years and then we split up but saw eachother on "the side" (if you kow what I mean). Then I started to date guy "B" we dated for a few months and it was starting to get serious. So I finally said to guy "A" we have to stop seeing eachother. Well then I found out I was pregnant. For the whole pregnancy I didn't know who's it was and I didn't tell guy "B" that there was apossibility that it wasn't his. So the 9 months went by and we fell in love with eachother and the idea of having a family. When the baby was born, it turned out that the baby was not guy "B" but guy "A". we tried to work it out for months but he was too crushed and now we don't even speak. I think about him all the time and just saw him today. My stomach sunk and I felt sick, just like it does every time I think of him. I want to stop thinking about him and I don't know how. HELP!!
2006-08-12 10:35:30 · 13 answers · asked by krissy1814 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time, taking it as it comes along and doing other things that keep your mind busy on other things. As time passes and you stop thinking about it...it gets easier. You just have to deal with the sadness and pain as it comes up...day-by-day. Don't think about it LONG TERM just think about how to get through today...then tomorrow and then after a while you won't have to think about how to get through the days. It gets ALOT easier, trust me, and you will be just fine. It is probably better for you anyway...no more drama.
Just deal with the feelings as they come up...talk to friends, go out and see a movie, find a hobby or SOMETHING that you can fall back on when you are sad or "feeling sick."
2006-08-12 10:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life choices....aren't they something? At this point in the game, you are trying to justify your actions. You justify that what you've done to both guys is okay and that you'll be fine, life will be good, and that your decisions were great. But really, isn't this just a mind trick? It makes sense that you try because that seems like the only way to make things better. But why are you so eager to forget something that will will not go away?
My advice is look to God for help. I truly believe that is the best answer for you right now. He knows you personally and is eager to help you, his daughter, to get back on track. He has infinite love and the power to change hearts, bless your actions, and also has a rich desire to help you. At this point, he is just waiting for you to ask and I know he will give you comfort.
2006-08-12 10:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by D H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there is any way you will be able to stop thinking of this guy since it's still fresh in your mind. The only thing that I can say is that as time goes by it will get a lot easier. You will never forget him, but it will be easier to deal with the situation as time goes by. It will all pass through time. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but trust me I have been there. Sometimes when we try to busy ourselves with things it only makes it worse because the problem is still there. You have to let it go, and just let it ride itself out. I truly hope that you get through this, and things get better for you. It won't always feel this way, you will see that down the road.
2006-08-12 10:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made, learn from them and quit looking back. Done is done, history is already written and can't be changed so put it away. Start thinking about the future. As long as you are looking behind you that is where you will stay. You feel sick because you hurt a good guy and you feel terrible for it, thats a good thing but its time to let it go. Everything in life is really just about making a decision. So decide that its something you will always regret but to leave it in the past where it belongs. Good luck!
2006-08-12 10:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about you have a child you got to be real now and try to do what is right and make your self happy so you be ok for the baby.You will get better as time go by.Good luck
2006-08-12 10:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a web we weave when first we try to deceive,You did this to your self learn your leason and go on with your life put your self out there to date again this time be totally honest with the person you date,you are sick because you know you did wrong forgive yourself and ask God to forgive you,then go on with it.
2006-08-12 10:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep your mind off of him just think of some fun and exciting things that nakes you happy.
2006-08-12 10:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Unique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl get over urself this is y men are such asshole to us good gurls cuz of the way gurls like u treat them u ought to be ashamed of urself and grow up
2006-08-12 10:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by stefini_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW its like watching a soap opera.... i dont know what to tell you except you should try to talk to this guy. tell him how you feel you'll feel better and if he doesint forgive you then well I DONT BLAME HIM!
2006-08-12 10:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dimond eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not much that you can do, let time take its course, it will get better, in the mean time distract yourself by taking extra interest and care in your child. gd luck
2006-08-12 10:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋