My Friend (Bride's Maid) and I got in a HUGE fight and now she won't come to my wedding. I really want her to be there. What should I do?
2006-08-12 10:23:06 · 15 answers · asked by Pretty 'N Pink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
wow, that's not very friend like. it's your wedding you two should be able to put this fight behind you. i know you want your friend there but seriously, what friend does that to a bride? if you really want her there call her and try to reason with her, if she doesn't want to hear it's her loss.
2006-08-12 17:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by glamr216 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send her a note and tell her you are sorry about the agument.
Tell her that you don't want an argument take her out of your day and SHE is part of that wonderful day. And that you don't want spend the rest of your life without her in it. If she won't budge then make other plans. How about a cousin..I do know that an add on brides maid might be a real insult- you will have to be very cautious and sensitive. The other option is to have one less bridesmaid. So, what if the front is lopside. Have the last two grromsmen both walk out the last brides maid.
If she won't give in, then PLEASE don't let it spoil your special day. This is your day and if she chooses to not be in it then that is how it is. Best for you to make the best of it . If you are misserable she will have had too much power over your happiness. If she can;t be part of your day then it is really her loss. Be sure and NOT bad mouth her or people will see you guys as both mean. Sometimes being gracious and loving against someone who hurt you shows that you are the mature one.
She must be very special friend for you to of chosen her for your wedding. She will be making her own self misserable. YOU on the other had are getting married...make it the best day ever.
2006-08-12 11:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a classic case of pre-wedding nerves. Both for you, and for her. Send (or take -- time is getting short) a bouquet of flowers, tell her that you truly value your friendship, and you really want her at your wedding.
Tell her it's a stressful time for both of you, and things may have been taken the wrong way. Whatever, the years of friendship between you count for more than a ten minute fight.
Apologize, give her a big hug, give her the flowers, throw in a bottle of bubbly if you think it will help, and tell her the best wedding present you could have would be her presence. Tell her she doesn't have to be a bridesmaid if she doesn't want to (although you'd really like it if she would stand up with you) but more than anything, you want her to be there to share this very special day.
Hope it works out, and much happiness to you and your fiance.
2006-08-12 11:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see her! Don't do this on the phone, go talk to her. Tell how stressed you are about the wedding, and you take full responsibilty for the arguement. Ask her to cut you some slack. I am going to hurt your feelings a little, you are stressed and tried. Any bride a couple of days before her wedding-gets to be kind-of-a not easy to please and controlling. I know I did, and my daughter, bless her heart, the sweetest thing in world was cussing by the time cermoney was started. So, please give it a try, I know you are busy with last minute details, but go to her, and make up. If's she a true friend, she will be willing to see your side of the story. Give each other a big hug, and ask her to help you, she might be filling left out, and that you don't need her anymore. Weddings are very stressful, and can cause a lot of hurt feelings----for everybody. So, get in the car, and go make up! God bless us all...........................
2006-08-12 10:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out with her. I don't know what happened between the 2 of you, but if you even remotely think you're to blame, (and not to offend, but you probably are) then apologize profusely, possibly give her a little gift or take her to lunch. Explain that you let the stress of the wedding get to you, and you took it out on her, and you're really, really sorry. Tell her how much it means to you to have her there. Honesty is going to be the best policy in this one. Be prepared for her to not want to come though, and in that case, I'd just be a bridesmaid short. But try not to lose a friendship over this, she's obviously a very good friend if you had asked her to be in the wedding, even if she doesn't come to the wedding, try to salvage the relationship. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-12 10:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer is obvious. Two days before your wedding, the fight cannot be that serious!! It's not worth it, mend things, the best you can. This day only happens once. (supposed to anyway) Tell her you really want & need her to be there for you. Tell her you want her to share in your special day. And don't jump on her if she needs more than a minute to think about it.
If she doesn't go, she'll feel bad later. And if she does, make a point to tell her how glad you are she was there later in the evening. Good Luck, I think things will work out for you!
2006-08-12 10:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have some brides maids or another friend that could take her place that will do. otherwise talk to yr friend again. resolve the issue with her. read more on weddings that might help on this site
2006-08-12 11:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either call and talk to her about it, or have one less bridesmaid at the wedding. If she refuses to make amends, then there really isn't anything else you can do about it for your wedding. It won't ruin your wedding if you don't let it.
Good luck and I hope you work through this.
2006-08-12 14:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eithere try and work things out or find another person to fill her place really fast.But you're best bet is to try and work things out. with her and see if she will be in the wedding still.good luck
2006-08-12 11:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her up or talk to her face to face and say im sorry for the fight we got into i hope we can put this behind us. I really want you to be in my wedding it would mean so much to me. I hope you guys work it out tho.. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-12 10:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋