My son has always been a sweet boy. He is not defiant, or rude...He's gentle, and calm...but extremely sensitive. His mind wanders, he has a hard time concentrating, and gets bored easilly. He acts nervous, but is extremely smart... He just doesn't seem to listen or follow directions unless they are told to him 3 or 4 times. We have a hard time being patient, especially in public when we are in a hurry or something. This weekend we had a family reunion and he literally panicked and cried and had a melt down during a talent show because he didn't want to do it...We were swimming in a public pool, and he couldn't find the restroom, and the logical thing to him was to just pee in the pool, (standing up on the edge) He did NOT do that to be funny or rude...it was just logical to him. *sigh* I am worried about him. I don't know where to turn. Does anyone have any suggestions?
2006-08-12 09:27:19 · 20 answers · asked by sincerelysarah117 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He sounds almost exactly like my daughter at that age. She was diagnosed with ADD in the 3rd grade.
She is very intelligent, even enrolled in a special city-run gifted school, but she totally lacks focus and it takes her hours to complete homework, and she struggles in school to finish her class assignments. Her teachers know she can do the work, but getting her to do it is the battle.
Before her diagnosis and meds, homework time was more a war zone, with a constant yelling at her to get it done. It also takes her hours to do any little thing, like getting dressed or doing a chore.
She can get quite emotional too. She gets upset very easily, and often has her feelings hurt over the simpliest little things.
But like you said about your son, she is often very calm, and a wonderfully caring young lady. This makes me think your son may not have ADHD, because if he can often remain calm, he probably does not have the hyperactivity component of ADHD.
When she was diagnosed, we were first sent to a pyshcologist for an evaluation, which we got the recommendation from her pediatritian. The psych gave me 2 forms to fill out, rating her behaviors and reactions to certain situations and stimuli, and sent one to her teacher as well to get her perspective.
Then the psych and ped conferred, and decided what the best possible action plan was.
I was so afraid that giving her meds would cause her to change dramatically. I had heard of horror stories of "zombie" like kids doped up so much they lost their personalities. I was very anit-meds because of that.
But I relented, after the other things we tried never worked, and also one night had my daughter crying in my arms that she wanted to be a better daughter. I realized at that moment that she needed help and that trying meds for a while to see if they worked was our last resort.
Am I glad we did! We still struggle here and there to find the right dosage and mix, which is hard sometimes to find and seems to be ever changing. But instead of this emotional blob I had for a kid, I have a happier, extremely confident daughter, who knows she can succeed. It's like night and day, and I saw the change in her attitude about herself in about 6 months after taking the meds.
I hope this helps you. Good luck!
2006-08-12 11:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by KD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not only over reacting your forgetting that he has only been in this world for 6 years, I am a school bus driver and I have been driving children for years.There is nothing unusually with him. There will be if you keep concentrating on everything wrong he does. Thats what kids do and all you can do is point them in the right direction without making a big deal out of it. Remember you and I have been here for quiet awhile and we are still making mistakes, Let your son make his too. Then show him the right way. It might take him a few times but he sounds like a very smart,senitive,and likeable kid. Good luck
2006-08-12 13:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At school, you can have him see the psychologist, who can do some testing and maybe find out something. Sometimes, something like this is true immaturity, and not being able to see consequences to behaviours. At times, kids don't generalize like others, and they need things exactly mapped out for them - what exactly is appropriate and inappropriate in a given situation. I realize it's hard to be patient, but you will need to adapt to him. Make extra time when you are going somewhere. Don't just yell out directions to him when you want him to do something - explain calmly and rationally. Sometimes explaining a simple WHY can help. I wish you luck.
2006-08-12 11:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult his doctor about the possibility of your son having ADHD. His behaviour matches with the symptoms of this illness, but only a proffessional can correctly diagnose it. If he is diagnosed with it, there are treatments that can assist in controlling these behaviours.
If he doesn't have ADHD, he could still have behavioural issues, so consulting a local phsychiatrist or phsychologist is reccommended. Social workers with the right training can help teach him how to make better decisions and focus more easily.
2006-08-12 09:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know...all of these things sound like a typical 6 year old. Don't forget that children go through phases...and the best part about that is...they grow out of them pretty quickly. You sound like a very attentive mom. Just keep up the good work by encouraging him to be confident in himself and thinking things through before he acts. If his actions/feelings don't seem to change, then you can consult a pediatric psychologist. It's possible he has ADD.... but I seriously doubt it.
Best of luck!!!!
2006-08-12 09:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in line with possibility you will desire to characterize that he would desire to attempt to play with countless the boys in his type a sprint greater. tell him that girls would be advise to boys and likewise the opposite, and that generally that even means they actually such as you, whether they won't admit it. discover out what else is bothering him, or how long this has been happening. He does no longer get those techniques if it replaced into in hassle-free terms bothering him for under some days. you additionally can attempt to be sure the place he have been given the techniques approximately dying. Is there somebody contained in the class who talks approximately dying? Is there something else bothering him. . . ask him approximately this. attempt to spend time with him, each and every bedtime, reading to him, speaking to him customarily, or singing songs, which will open up time for communicate approximately in spite of may well be on his strategies and likewise help him be conscious of you're there for him. enable him have pals over and discover out how he's getting alongside with the different babies in his type. you additionally can communicate with the instructor and get his/her handle issues. compliment him for issues he's achieving in his day/life, and communicate in regards to the helpful issues that happen daily or helpful issues that befell in his type. Do you have a discern or different relative who can come and help with the greater youthful young babies, now and then, so which you will spend a sprint time with him? Then, in case you do no longer see an progression, attempt speaking to somebody who bargains professionally with those issues. Oh, yeh - i'm no longer a specialist, so shop tabs on issues and follow your instinct.
2016-09-29 04:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...no...he doesnt have anything wrong with him. He is 6 years old, and that is a vital age when children are seperating big kig thoughts from baby thoughts and identities.
Not that getting him tested is a bad idea, but potentially more traumatic than its worth. Plus, it will give him an "excuse" to continue that behavior. Just keep working with him...the key is consistency. Good luck..
2006-08-12 10:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you. My 7 year old is very similar. He's very introverted and intellectually advanced for his age, but he has to be told step by step instructions or else he "forgets". Public school is limiting his achievements (once he learns something he's ready to move on & most lessons are taught over & over for the slower kids) this causes him to be bored & get into trouble. I'm probably going to put him into a Montessori school.
2006-08-12 09:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds alot like my 6 year old. Very strong willed, and very sensitive... I really understand how you feel, but i think of it this way. I am sure Albert Einstein's parents had some of the same problems.... He will be fine, and so will you! Good Luck!
2006-08-12 15:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of us can make suggestions, but this is your little boy. You need to take hm to a doctor, tell us what you told us, and ask him what you can do to help your child. Beng a teacher, I can make a guess, however, I am not a doctor nor. is anyone else on here.
take your baby (they are always our babies) to the doctor. I am sure everything is fine.
take care.
2006-08-12 12:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋