my bf lives in oklahoma and i live in arkansas and i have a feelin he's cheatin on me and like he works alot and like we started goin out on July 18th of this year and like i have not seen him since and then like when i call he does not return my calls he's only returned my calls once and like yea ....................what should i do should i break up w/ him or what.... and like there is a guy at my church that i like and get to see every sunday and wendsday ......should i break up w/ my bf and try going out w/ him or what??? BUT.....I really really LOVE my bf tho .....I need HELP PLEASE HELP ME!!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO????????????
2006-08-12 09:26:19 · 15 answers · asked by sweet_lil_lolo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would take a trip there and talk about things face to face. then....just see what goes from there. but my gut feeling says that he is cheating.
2006-08-12 09:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by dancin_queenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a big difference between love and infatuation. I'm sorry that you have to go through such a difficult situation but you have to break up with him. The test of a long distance relationship is the best to find out if you really love each other. If you don't feel like you can totally trust him while he's away and he's ignoring you then it's already over. Also if you have feelings for someone else you are probably not really in love with your bf but just infatuated with him. This new guy would probably be good for you. Too bad though sorry.
2006-08-12 16:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by leesha_luvs_ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your bf is not returning your calls, that seems like a really bad sign. But I think you should talk to him first and try to find out what is going on. Leave him a message that it's really important for you to talk to him. When you get him on the phone tell him what you're thinking and see how he reacts. There's a chance he's got a good reason for not returning your calls, but more likely the relationship is dying. But talk to him first. If he doesn't seem like he's all that into you, tell him you want to see other people and start getting to know that guy at church!!
2006-08-12 16:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a boyfriend, really, think about it. You never see him, he doesn't return your phone calls. That's not even an acquaintance.
I'd say go with the boy at church, you have lots more in common with him and you see him at least twice a week now. He's closer to being a boyfriend, than him in Oklahoma. That's just too far away, for any relationship to flourish.
Time to wake up and move on.
2006-08-12 16:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he wasn't cheating on him, break up. You aren't married. You live in different states for pete's sake. What makes you think you can have any kind of relationship seeing eachother once very few weeks?
You can't build a relationship over that much distance.
And if you are thinking of breaking up and jumping to another dude, then you really weren't in love with him to begin with. You are inlove with the idea of being in love which is way imature. I home you aren't having sex, I'd hate to think of you bringing a kid into this world at the mentality that you seem to have. Not to mention you'd probably get an STD.
2006-08-12 16:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually am one to say that you should try working it out with your bf, but i strongly feel that If you have feelings for other guys and you think your guy may have feelings for other girls, it sounds like it is time to move on. You guys should try to stay friend though, and who knows what will happen in the future? Good luck!!
ps. long distance things can suck sometimes (trust me, i know from experience) and it sound like you live a lot closer to the other guy). Just a little added reason why it may work better between you two.
2006-08-12 16:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by katie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ok think about this will u ever get 2 b the other guy?again and if so u know u wot get 2 c him often i mean he cant say he was but cuz i mean cmon he must have at least 1 minute out of m24 hours 2 call u !
i think u should give the guy at ur church a chance besides wut have u got 2 lose?
2006-08-12 16:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'm a real born Jamaican and in Jamaica as we say "if yuh man a gi yuh bun, bun him back" in English it means if your guy is cheating on you cheat back on him. Because when ur bf realizes u r no longer interested in him he will be crawling back begging u to take him back, he will be calling u like crazy that's if he loves u!! Don't take my advise if ur not sure that he is cheating on u.
2006-08-12 16:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Seriously, based on the way you type, you're too young to try the whole long distance thing. Drop him and find someone close to home. Then stop using the word "like" when you're typing. It's distracting :)
2006-08-12 16:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by SSG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, has HE ever tried calling you? if not, then u dont deserve him, really. if you want, you can TRY going out with that church guy, after you break up with you bf, but if he is cheating on you, u shouldn't stoop to his level and cheat on him.
2006-08-12 16:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by [Muffin.Monster] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it won't work out with a bf living in another state. he may be cheatin', but how can you know for sure.
2006-08-12 16:31:59 · answer #11 · answered by Tommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋