I find myself yelling all the time...my middle child is a big stressor he is high maintanence he is 4 going on 5, my oldest is 13 and really nasty and impossible. I actually find myself just wanting to get away from them..i feel withdrawn and really depressed. Do i need medicine or do i need to go on vacation, i need feed back.
2006-08-12 09:19:08 · 11 answers · asked by blondiebella 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Blondie as a dad it is not only women that get stressed .If you are depressed get medication but also have a break if you have a partner let him deal with the stress for a week or 2.Good Luck but realise as a parent it is bloody hard but no matter what our kids do we still love the little bastards..
2006-08-13 01:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by pig m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger Mangement classes did me a world of good with teaching me other ways to react to situations. I was really reluctant to go and didn't think I could learn anything new, but I was really surprised. It's sorta stress management and anger management at the same time. I have practiced over the past few years and I think I handle things so much better, and I've learned not to sweat the small stuff. Good Luck!
2006-08-12 16:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a stay at home mom? A single parent?
You need time away, not like forever, maybe a vacation. I would consider finding a hobbie or a fullfilling career so you can have a moments time to yourself. Don't have a sitter. Find a mom in your neighborhood that is willing to swap child care. Good luck!
2006-08-12 16:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Carey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 5 year old and 14...its not easy for sure. Take a deep breath and think about what you need them to hear instead of yelling. If you need to regroup make them go to their rooms until you can calm down. Mine always end up needing me at the same time so I feel like i am pulled in different directions. You probably feel like that with the age difference. Its like your go from preschool stuff to teenage stuff...Deal with one thing at a time, calmly...kids know how to push our buttons but if they know we are in control and not going to get a rise from us (like yelling) they learn we mean business. Mine think if I get bugged enough I will change my mind about things so being consistent really pays off too. When they go to bed do something really relaxing for just YOU so you can regenerate. I always excercise, seems to help! Good luck girl!
2006-08-12 16:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling irritable and frustrated all day, regardless of the offense, it could be a sign of depression. But more than likely it's your kids being kids, and you need a break. See if you can get someone to watch your kids and go out for a day. If you're married, try to get a sitter so you can go out for a movie with your husband or something. If you're single, try to go on a date. Doesn't have to be serious, but a nice night out with someone. Other than that, time-out your kids when they start getting really hard to handle and take the time to just get a few deep breaths. Breathe, re-center, talk to your 4-year-old and let him know he isn't in trouble, you just needed mommy time. Might wanna tell your 13-year-old something similar, but only you know how to tell him.
I only have one 18-month-old. And I love him to bits. But the strain that caring for this demanding little bundle is still pretty high. I take whatever chance I get to go out. I'm fortunate that I can just go to the mall and he'll be preoccupied with his stroller (we rent a car one and he loves it).
I know the three of us (I was 5 and 6 years older than my sister and brother, respectively) were hard on my mom, and she'd take us to the mall and just have me watch them while she sat in the quiet of the food court or a resturaunt for whenever we ran out of money. Yeah, she had to deal with "mom, I don't have enough money for [insert weird item here]," but after a few times we got the idea that what money we had, that was it. I don't know how responsible your teen is, but if you have a mall with a play area, it might be worth while to let your teen wander the mall and your kid play in the play area. It's not as good as being out on your own, but it might be a small reprieve to catch your breath.
2006-08-12 16:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by criticalcatalyst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make time for yourself. If you feel like you are at the point that you want to just lose it, take a short little walk outside. But, try your hardest to make time just for you. At least an hour or two every week.
2006-08-12 16:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by brainznbooty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on what you really want your children to be doing. even if you have to sit them in there rooms and make you some international coffee,if your going stressedcalm down. those children will succeed in going out into the world and stressing others. and i don't have time for the stress. so quit taking out the time to let the stress control you.
2006-08-12 16:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of it is the stress caused by pregnancy hormones. I think it's completely normal to feel stressed out, not to mention huge.
2006-08-12 16:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Diana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill, learn to meditate - that's what my partner recommended for me! And If it works for a big stroppy bloke...
2006-08-12 16:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Legend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prozac helped me.
2006-08-13 01:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by hairstyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋