He insisits that I will like him the more I get to know him, but I have known him for over 2 years and his personality and mine just dont mix. What should I do/ tell my bf?
2006-08-12 08:52:22 · 27 answers · asked by katie l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Smile, grin and bear it. You don't have to like him, but you do have to be nice and civil with him. He's your boyfriend's bestfriend, not yours. Just try and limit the time you spend with him.
If your guy insists that you all hang out, or if he insists on inviting the bestfriend with on outings, say, "I know he's your bestfriend, and I've tried to like him, but our personalities just don't mix. It's not his fault, and it's not my fault, and it's definately not yours. I'm not asking you to stop being friends with him, but maybe we can arrange it so that he and I spend less time together? I just feel like when I'm forced to be with him, it ruins the outing, and I don't want to be in a bad mood when we spend time together. I want to spend time with you and have a good time. Maybe you and him could go out this time, and the next time, I'll go with you?"
Good luck!
2006-08-12 08:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell your boyfriend that you respect his friends and all, but if it's possible, to please not put you and this person in the same place at the same time.
There are certain people that you will NEVER get along with. . .and it doesn't mean they're bad or anything, but why torture yourself?
Of course, tell your bf that you realize there will be certain times that meeting this person will be unavoidable (weddings, funerals, etc.). But as far as day-to-day problems, don't you have enough stress in your life than to try to pretend to like someone you very clearly don't?
But then again, if it's his BEST BUD, you may isolate yourself. But still, let your bf know that things are really very awkward when this guy is around. . .at least it's a starting point for fixing the problem.
2006-08-12 15:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by ThatGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your bf you don't like him and thats that. If your bf insists that you do he's wrong. If you insist that your bf not be friends with him because you don't like him then you are wrong. You just leave it that way. You don't like him and thats that. When he says you will say no I won't and let him know that you don't appreciate him trying to tell you something about yourself that you know isn't true. After that the debate should be over. You just agree to disagree about the likability of this particular friend. Problem solved.
2006-08-12 15:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to just deal with him. Chances are that your BF won't give up his friendship with his bud just to make you happy. Why not just avoid being around the guy?
Or you could just find excuses to get away from him! :)
2006-08-12 16:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you poke him in the trachea. However this isn't kosher at all. I say either you get it through your bf's head that you don't like his best friend and don't want to be around him, or you find a new bf. Its just one of those things.
2006-08-12 15:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by mavrickatasu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are with your boyfriend and that is his best friend, there is not really anything you should do. It is his best friend. You do not have to like him, merely tolerate him. To make your boyfriend choose between you are him would be an ultimatum that will come back to bite you someday. You wouldn't want your boyfriend to do that to you would you? If you decide you cannot handle it, maybe it is time to move on to somebody new.
2006-08-12 15:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your boyfriend how you feel? If not you should and see what he says. I hope you don't really hate him, maybe dislike intensely. It also sounds like this best bud has quite an ego, too bad he could use it to be nicer.
2006-08-12 16:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your bf anything and try your best to stay away from the bud .. he will get the hint sooner oe later that you don't like him
2006-08-12 15:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up. bros before hos....you can't tell him not to be his friend. if it is a personality issue too bad. sorry to say it but the bf was most likely friends with his buddy first so really you are the one who is replaceable not the buddy.
2006-08-12 15:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seems to me you have two choices... Get along with the guy, or tell your boyfriend if he wants to hang out with this guy, that you simply don't want to present. Seems to me the only way. Avoid unnecessary conflict.
2006-08-12 15:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by schenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋