My dh & I have been married 11yrs. 3 yrs ago his brother married the most evil person I have ever met. Before she came along we had a great family. Since the day I met this lady she has been nothing but rude and disrespectful to everyone in our family. My husbands mother who is a very caring lady, Allowed them to live with her for the first 2 1/2 years of their marriage. It caused a lot of stress in the family everywhere. My husband and I finally came to the decision that it was not good for our kids to be around her. This became a huge problem because they were living at his Mom's house. During this time they never had jobs, so it was impossible to go over there and visit with his Mom. 2 nights ago we had a family (Adult) dinner and she had a tantrum and stood up screaming because the waitress didn't ask her if she wanted ice cream. The police came because she wouldn't leave when the owners asked her to. My decision is to stay away from her. Am I doing the right Thing?
2006-08-12 08:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by oceanjen2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all your family or any family that this outrageous woman has should seriously commit her. Sounds as if she is a control freak and who know what she is doing to your Mother-in-law. Could be she is on drugs. I would not stay away from my in-laws, but rather visit often to really find out what she is doing to them. If she acts terrible in public, what on earth is she doing to your husbands parents. Don't stay away, but increase your visits. BUT if she does not live with your in-laws anymore, then stay the heck away from this biatch. When she is at your in-laws home, be sure to attend, so she can not abuse your in-laws. Let her know you won't tolerate that .
2006-08-12 08:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are. When you wish to see family, invite them to your home. If and when she throws a tantrum cuz she's not invited, stay calm, and tell her the truth. You don't like her, don't approve of her or her childish attitude, and refuse to have her in your home. The real question is why your brother puts up with her, and why Mom tolerated bro and ***** living in her home, while sponging rather than working. But, that's THEIR problem. I wouldn't allow that garbage in MY home. To prevent it, I'd physically toss her out IF she tried to come over. Your husband should take care of that, if necessary. Gentleness isn't required
2006-08-12 09:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound s to me that this person is spoilt and immature. however in my profession it has been my experience that there is something deeper. maybe try something different, try reaching out to her , maybe you will help her to open up about the problem she most likely does not realise she has. i would agree with keeping the children away from her askids tend to model adult behaviour and this is not a positive behaviour to follow. her husband seems weak and therefore he allows the behaviour and she needs someone weak to walk over, and he is providing it. everyone can be reached so trust in GOD and work together to accomodate change.
2006-08-12 08:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Trini Scorpio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear to the rest of the family how you feel, they should respect you and make sure she is not present when you and your kids are over for a visit. If they don't, you are not obligated to be with the family when she is there. Good luck
2006-08-12 08:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by chuco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are. She is stressing you all out and she's out of control. Just be sure to pick up your mom for visits with your family so she won't miss out. This is a no-win situation, honey. Avoid her as best you can.
2006-08-12 08:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If she causes pain and embarassment that you don't need to go through, then try to stay away from her. Obviously, you can't cut her completely out of your life since she's part of the family, but when you do see her, be nice. If you're kind to her, she find it harder to be rude to you
2006-08-12 08:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are doing the right thing. schedule outings and visits privately with your mother-in-law, have her waiting for you when you get there to pick her up or have her meet you somewhere. you shouldn't have to subject your children to such an inmature and rude person, no matter the relation.
2006-08-12 08:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an awful thing, when you marry someone, you marry their family too..... It's so true. I personally would do my best to avoid her in as many situations as possible. Good luck!
2006-08-12 08:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are! you have all the right to diasociate your self with negative people, just sent them a card a gift when is their birthdays and things like that. dont worry.. looks like they wont be married for long time. people like that always end up alone.
2006-08-12 08:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a sicko. My sister does childish things all the time but nothing like that!!!
She needs help and unless she gets it stay away from her as much as you can!!!! Don't infect your family!
2006-08-12 09:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by SallyS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋