met a girl online 1 year ago on a web dating site.
we talked cam to cam for like 2 hours a day for the last 6 months,i write and send her letters,email her.text her and she also does the same.The connection i have with her gives me butterflys and i wouldnt rush anything,i could stare at her smile all day and she is always in my dreams,
so now she is coming to visit me in london,she is from london and now she lives out in Hong Kong.She has explained that she has feelings for me as i do for her.but i cant get this (web dating dont work ) feeling out my head.Meeting her could mean alot of things. my attraction to her is pure, she is such a happy and person with such a caring personality. i have just sold my house and everything i have and i plan to move out HK,but i dont want her to think i am moving out there just for her.It may scaire her!
id do anything to make her happy and if we ending up staying friends id be more that happy with that.I respect her so much.
2006-08-12 08:12:19 · 36 answers · asked by ♥The♥ Bearded Cheerleader 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say that a year long history between the two of you is a really great start.....I've known people that met on line that it turned out to be a total disaster,,and I've known people that met on line that eventually got married,,it can go either way! Good luck to you both:-)
2006-08-12 08:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the whole I don't think that web dating can work, especially as you've never met the person. Sometimes there is an inexplicable feeling of dislike when you meet someone face to face.
I can't believe that you've sold your house and plan to move out to Hong Kong without having ever met the girl. You won't just scare her - she'll probably think you're a stalker - I do!
Saying that, you may have got lucky. I hope for your sake you have, although I can see this all ending in tears, I am afraid to say.
2006-08-12 08:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get that out of the back of your mind. many people have now met on the internet on dating sites and are now happily married. there is nothing wrong with your partner online. personally i wouldn't tell her your moving to hk unless everything clicks. then let her know you'd like to be nearer to her and are interested in moving so you can move your relationship to that level. for all you know maybe she's coming back to london for more than a visit...what if she moves back home? so talking about it would be best before such a huge life change. it isn't like moving across town, so if in the end you don't like hk you can't just come back. it takes alot of money and time.
2006-08-12 08:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to get rid of that feeling. I met my fiance on the net 2 years ago, I moved 130 miles to live with him and we are still together.
What I would suggest to you is that you wait until you have met her in person before thinking seriously about moving all the way to Hong Kong. I strongly suspect that the feelings you share will be even stronger in person, but it would be wise to make sure. Also, I would suggest that you talk it through with her, hint that you may be thinking about moving, and see what she says.
Personally, I think that she would love the idea, but then again I'm not the girl you are on about, lol.
Good luck, I hope I am right!! xx
2006-08-12 08:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have been doing online dating since i was 14, most of the dating things change the second you meet them, no matter how long you been together on the web cam, there always that face to face attraction. i get those butterflies too, but more than half of the time, the chemisty is just not there. it was once, and it was the best ever. so i wish you luck, and don't rush, if its mean tot be its meant to be
2006-08-12 08:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Katrina D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would scare me if someone I "web dated" for a year was moving to be closer to me. I mean not that you're weird or anything ... I think you should make the move, and tell her honestly why you are doing it, I mean if she hates you for it, then you know she's not the one. But if she is flattered and likes you more because of it, you'll have a solid relationship. Most important thin for you to do now though is be sure you have a good friendship with her, and define your relationship now, so that you both KNOW for a fact where you stand. Its easier to navigate where you're going when you know where you are. But when you get to Hong Kong, take it Ssssllllloooooowwww
2006-08-12 08:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by strong_beautifulqueen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well whoever told you that web dating dose not work dose not know what they are talking about. I know of 2 relationships that have worked wonderfully as a result of web dating. I am sure that others know people who met on line and got married, too.
You are moving out there just for her, right? Maybe you guys should have had a discussion about you moving before you actually started making plans just be sure that she is on the same page that you are on.
2006-08-12 08:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew! I would't rush this one. Does she really feel the same way about you? What I think you need to do is spend some quality time together, in real life, not web cam life. She doesn't know about your planned move? I would ask her if she would like you to move out there so that you could maybe further your relationship. If you "scare" her then it really wasn't meant to be. So if you do respect her, just ask her how she feels about your plans. Girls like that. Good luck!
2006-08-12 08:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by glendonite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I my opnion is see what happens when you two meet. See if there is a connection between you not only on the internet. It seems like you really care for each other but you have to think about your future also. Is this going to change your life. I hope for the best for you both. If it doesn't work out as a relatonship as you said be happy with her friendship.
2006-08-12 08:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by italiansweetie6883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why not meet her before you tell her that you're planning on moving out to HK to be with her?
You guys have been building this relationship for a long time. You've spent a lot of time getting to know each other. You've seen her face, she's seen yours. She wants to visit you. Just take it easy and slowly, and you'll working something out.
Good luck!
2006-08-12 08:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋