I really want to start going to church, especially for my kids?

Question

but I feel very intimidated by my lack of Christian upbringing, and my ignorance. Every church I have tried to go to, I feel so out of place, and uncomfortable, and (please don't laugh), I am terrified someone will ask me to pray, and I would be embarrassed because I don't know how. Any suggestions how to get over these feeling? I really want to get my kids involved in a church.

Answer 1

God bless you ... what a genuine question.

First, how were you raised? Are you Catholic or Protestant?

After this question, I would recommend going to a large, "old-time religion" church. Either a Catholic church or an Episcapalean (sp?) one. The large church will allow you to slip in under the radar. The two churches above have been around for centuries and the chances are low that you will get involved with some wacky cult or doctrine (although you might in any church). The Episcapal church has a thing called "the book of common prayer" and also (in "High" E Churches), a formalized service. At the door you will get a summary of the service with notes about what hymm is going to be sung, what things you should say, what passages of the Bible you will be hearing. Its kinda like a roadmap for today's journey. Large established churches will also have people as pastors/ministers/priests who have had formal training, so when you ask "how do I pray", you'll get the "official" answer - and then you can work out the details on your own.

I would recommend you take your kids to the services ONLY for the first year. Make sure you are comfortable with the church before you join the groups. Also, the kids will feel like it is "their" church when they start joining the groups. If your kids are well disciplined and know how to be quiet and respectful for like 45 minutes, there is no reason they can not go to the adult service.

Lastly ... pick up a copy of the book "Mere Christianity" by C.S. Lewis ... it will help you and lift up your growing beliefs.

Best to you ... feel free to write ...

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Answer 2

Never Ever be embarrassed when it comes to prayer. Everyone has their own way of praying. I pray everyday by talking to God. For you to want your children to learn about God is wonderful! Even if you have no christian background, Does not make you ignorant! Find a church in your area that has Sunday school or bible classes. Get your children enrolled. Some of the Baptist Church's pick the kids up at your door on Sundays. Purchase one of those children's Bible Stories Books. Read to them a different chapter every week. Not only will it help them, it will help you. Good Luck, And God Bless you and your family! Never be afraid to pray. He always listens.

Answer 3

Just remember that praying is just a simple conversation with a very good friend. God doesn't judge how we pray. He will not hold it against you. He just wants us to do it! As for getting your kids involved in a church, I think its great, but also do it for yourself. This may be God's way of reaching out to you. Reach back. Keep looking for a church in your area that you like (so you'll continue to go!) Try different denominations, try a non-denominational Chrisitian church. Try different types of services (Traditional, Contemporary etc.)
Just know that there are millions out there who are in the same place with you and they too are growing their relationship with God. No one should ever judge you on your "lack of Christian upbringing or ignorance". Only you can change that though. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 4

Hi! First of all I commend you for realizing your need to include religion in your families life. Its important for children and adults to have that anchor because life is full of unpleasant surprises and when trouble comes you want that firm realization that you are NOT alone in this :) As a new person at a church its quite normal to feel slightly uncomfortable. The whole process is new, people are strangers, and you feel like all eyes are on you. My church wants new people to feel welcome. So we introduce ourselves as quickly as possible. As far as being asked to pray, you could say something like, "I'd prefer not to just yet, thanks" that should do it. Smile and get to know some people pretty soon you'll feel more comfortable. God is so happy to have you there! Church is a great place to connect with other like minded individuals! Don't feel like all eyes are on you!

Answer 5

Kids will learn from you. You need to seek church for YOUR spiritual growth, you kids will follow.
1. No one will ask you to pray. Start by learning your "prayer closet." This is done in private. God listens intently. He wasn't embarrassed of you when He died on the cross, you need not be ashamed of Him.
2. Be open and honest with Him and your kids.
3. Seek friends or maybe try a home Bible study. The smaller setting may help with a smaller atmosphere. One lady came to ours years ago, very afraid of praying and others. Now she prays with such confidence she CAN'T WAIT to pray for others as well.
4. Talk with kids of this opportunity. You may be surprised of their answer.

Answer 6

What a good mom you are! Going to church is an excellent decision for you and your children. As a teacher, I recently read an article that says that children who go to church have more social skills and self-esteem. I believe you are making a very un-selfish decision for you and your family.

I agree with looking for a non-dem. church. Many churches have Bible studies for all age groups, especially moms with young children. Search the internet for churches in your area, or call some of them and talk with the pastor. Churches are ready in your area to open their arms for you.

If you want to know more about Jesus, or becomming a Christian, please email me. I am more than happy to speak with you further.

Answer 7

Don't be intimidated. The church is filled with those that are recooperating from deviant lifestyles.

Main thing is, don't go for your kids only. Go for YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS. That will make the biggest impression on your children. YOU be the example for them.

If you want to become a Christian,

http://www.christiancourier.com/articles/read/the_sinners_prayer_is_it_biblical

What church is and isn't

http://www.christiancourier.com/articles/read/jesus_christ_church_inspector

I hope this helps.

Answer 8

Why not explore different religions and spirituality together, go to a buddhist shrine too. I would be more concerned a church with strict dogma would be worse than no church. Most of the things I've seen that qualify for among the worst on the planet - express their points of view with a strong religious bent. Jihad bombers, people who mutilate young African girls, honor killings in Pakistan, gay bashing, slavery and on and on.

Answer 9

Be upfront about it. Tell them you are church hunting and that you have never been to very many chruches/ or any churches before. People shouldnt judge you then, they will be excited, and hopefully welcome you with open arms. And they wont ask you to pray. They will know that you are new.
Its definately a good idea to get your kids going, so that they wont feel like you do years later. And they will learn about God, Jesus, and just overall good morals, and christianity. Good luck.. God Bless.

Answer 10

No problem , first find a Bible teaching Church cause there are some that do not. then just be honest if the time ever comes up be truethful and let poeple now where you are at , that sthe best way to make freinds and for you to feel friendly to them. pray and trust God for you and your kids sake