i always c my parents in my room, they're always looking through my stuff, my drawers, through my files on my computer. i find them in my room like 5 times a day. i don't like that and i told them that. but all they say is what do u mean? we're ur parents.
it's not that i have something to hide, i just don't feel comfortable, but they don't seem to get it.
also the worst thing, they take whatever they want, and they might throw something out if they don't like it. once they threw out my school assay and i failed a term.
i asked my friends about it, none of their parents do that. is there ANYWAY way i can stop them from doing that?
2006-08-12 08:09:13 · 13 answers · asked by innocent1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly, your parents behavior is ridiculous and unnecessary. Talk about a violation of your privacy. If my parents ever did your parents did, I would be irate! you should start going through their things and throw them out, ask them, how it feels. Either that, or intentionally start leavnig things out and making things up, like drugs, fake notes, and when they ask you about it, say yeah...........how do you like it now!
sorry your parents suck ***!
2006-08-12 08:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by whuvahgut? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like it or not you are the child of your parents.
As parents it is both their business and responsibility to know EVERYTHING about their child. Where the child goes, were it is at, with whom, how long, what the child eat or drink.
You did not pay one penny for the place they provide for you sleep, you do not work to support the home, your parents do!
They own the home and provide a place for you to sleep. But it is not YOURS. You and everything that they ALLOW you to have is THEIRS! You have no right to secrecy as far as your parents are concerned.
And, no way in GODS heaven, should you have anything and they do not know about it. From Natures point, by LAW, by every definition of parental responsibility, too include society’s demands and expectations, your parents are required to know everything about you 24/7.
If they want to open every drawer, box, kit, door or go thru every pocket - there is no issue, you and all that is there, is theirs, and if you have something they do not know about, that is an issue, even if someone gave it to you! They should know what it is and how you got it!
As soon as children start trying to hide, sneak or keep secrets, all the other negative issues are not far behind!
14 year old running a porno site on his computer in his bedroom -
Dumb Parents.
Guns hidden and taken to school, Dumb Parents.
Stolen goods in child’s closet. Dumb Parents.
You do not have any 'MY/YOUR Stuff', you have what your parents purchase, or if from another source, and THEY ALLOW you to keep. And should they choose to, they can get rid of it.
If more parents paid attention to what their children have, are doing and where they go, with whom, there would be fewer many dumb issues!
2006-08-12 08:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you left out your age, and i would like to know if u did something that causes them be suspicious of you.
there seems to be a lack of trust and respect here, and as a family you need to sit and discuss this matter that is very disturbing to you.
i live in the caribbean and the adults have a saying that ' there is no privacy under my roof '. However ,here it does not include military invasion as you described.as ihave advised before the only solution to a family problem is respectfully addressing your concerns, and please remember thst if you cannot workout a family problem you will not be able to solve problems outside of the home. good luck.
2006-08-12 08:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by Trini Scorpio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you given them a reason not to trust you? do you lie alot? if so your screwed. if not then just try to talk to them in an understanding respectful tone and tell them you feel violated and ask them if they could lay off the nosey stuff some and respect your privacy a little more. p.s. all parents do it if they care about their kids...most dont get caught. when you shut your parents out and dont communicate they have to know what your up to....so they snoop for clues. try talking to them more abo0ut your day...week...life...hopes...dreams likes...dislikes. they will quit or really slack up then. good luck with that.
2006-08-12 08:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, before i moved out, my parents always had a hay day in my room going through it. its called being a good parent. they just want to make sure you arent into drugs or sex or gangs. they are looking for signs. besides, its their house, if they want to see whats in that room they have the right. not only are you a minor, but your their child. what they say will go. i know it sucks and i hated it for years until i had my first child. and looking at him, i can understand my parents actions. they are just looking out for you and wanting the best for you. if they didnt go through your things, that would mean they wouldnt want to spend their time making sure your a healthy safe teenager. just a few more years and you can be on your own. but dont get mad at them, really it is the best.
2006-08-12 08:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That used to happen to me although they only looked trough my stuff 1 a day) my mother once found my diary and read it, (than she saw i was mad at her 4 being nosy and she stoped)4 a while, then a started to anser back and my parents got mad, then one time i went trough all there stuff, (and so did my friends) then they finaly stopped. =) it took less than a week and it worked, Good luck.
2006-08-12 08:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Melisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel and say you need your personal space and ur mature enough for that.sadly if that doesnt work distract them and get them something else to look at. a lot of parents think they should know evrything their kids do.
2006-08-12 08:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by heyitspreeti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god please get a safe box with combination lock or something or if you can get a safety deposit box, other than that you could start to have hidden compartments in your closet, in your matress, under the carpet or anywhere, you just have to be creative and neat otherwise they will notice, just look foreward to moving out when you are 18, save up $
2006-08-12 08:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... Parents out there need to give their child their privacy. If you don't suspect your child of anything, there is no reason to go through their stuff.
2006-08-12 08:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by miketorse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure, sweetie, that there is more to this story than you are telling. How do I know this? Well, I am a Mom and I did the same thing. I let my kids know that there is no such thing as "privacy" as long as they were minors living in my house. I did not sneak....it was right in the open if I thought any "funny stuff" was going on. Some day, trust me, you will Thank them.
2006-08-12 08:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋