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My mother left my brother and I when we were coming into our teen years for her boyfriend. My dad looked after us, gave up his job, fed us and clothed us. If he weren't there, god knows what could have happened to us. Please Courts, don't discriminate!!!

2006-08-12 07:47:46 · 20 answers · asked by what's up 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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I'm glad your father was there for you when you needed him the most. Courts favor the mothers because they think every woman has the motherly instinct which isn't true in most cases. It's not far but that's how it works. They'll never change it cause then they have to admit they were wrong. And we know that'll never happen. If your over a certain age you can tell the judge who you want to live with and they'll go by your wishes.

2006-08-12 07:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by squirrellchica 3 · 2 0

courts favor the child's interest "or should at least". Many men are terrible dads, fewer moms are terrible moms. if A CHILD wishes TO be with one over the other the judge Will grant what the child wants unless there are very unstable reason not to. For the person who wrote about the good dad wanting to get his kids away from smack using mom. I was a heroin addict for years still a better mom then the dad was a dad. I went to treatment been sober a long time. Daddy dear has been missing in action no support no calls no cards exc. DRUGS do not mean the mother is a crappy mom. It means shes making crappy choices. Had the father tried to get my kids he would have failed because he could not have proved he was a better provider. Childrens services will take children in drug homes untill treatment is done. I don't belive 4 a second the court left kids in a known drug user care while she was still using. The courts gave mine to my mom for 6 months till i finished rehab.

2006-08-12 08:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0 1

i don't sense it somewhat is all a woman's international now day's, contained in the courts many dad's are shared, finished custody. Father's right this moment are in comparison to yesteryears. reason's. mom's decide on the shared /finished custody and or on no account. Father's are taking the duty greater intense, they have greater proper open verbal replace/love bond better. it somewhat is problematic for those father's yet they learn, I provide the a hundred 0/0 credit when I see this. i do no longer discredit the mummy's, they only decide on a clean life or profession. Adjusting time, what's maximum suitable for the youngsters, Nanny's are positive, no longer comparable to loving mothers, so father's take over adjusting for the well-being of the secured babies. on the age of 14-sixteen some circulate and stay with the opposit discern. Love continues to be there, lots greater proper information and adjusting time for each individual. babies of right this moment would be your destiny, Presidents, State Rep.etc.

2016-09-29 04:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by boland 4 · 0 0

If fathers were given rights to their children, rape victims who give birth to the rapist off spring would, by law have to let the rapest see their child.
Men in general make more money than woman and it would be seen as favorable that children stay with a parent that could financially provide for the child rather than emotionally nuture the child.
The law was also created at a time where women didnt work thus meaning it would be unrealistic to expect a working man, who in that day would never have an involvement into the child's upbringing take care of his young.
Your mum sounds like she cared more about her hapiness than of yours, but percentage wise this is not is not usually the case.
Your dad sounds like someone to be proud of.

2006-08-12 23:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0 0

They do tend to favor the mother because she is usually the one to take care of the children when the father is long gone and paying no child support unless forced to and usually it isn't much money. However the courts are beginning to change that as fathers are being awarded custody of the children more and more. Don't assume that you will not win custody because you are a man. Good luck.

2006-08-12 07:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 1 0

Courts try to do what is best for the child. Usually this is staying with the mother. Sometimes they are better off with their father.

2006-08-12 08:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Trish D 5 · 0 0

They don't always favour the mothers at all. It depends greatly on the circumstances at the time. I am a mother of 3 boys who lost custody of all of them to their fathers 3 years ago. I was mentally ill at the time and couldn't look after myself let alone my boys. I did fight to keep them with me but the courts went with the fathers. So you can generalise and say the courts ALWAYS favour the mothers because they don't.

2006-08-12 08:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by beckywecky 3 · 0 1

Your situation is not as common, more fathers walk out of their kids lives than the mother. Children need their mothers more than a father for emotional needs and also a very special bond is made when they are in the womb. There are a lot of useless dads out there who couldn't give a toss about their kids.

2006-08-14 04:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0 1

In general, mothers tend to be more nurturing and more inclined to act in the best interests of their children. Mothers are hormonally wired for this. We literally "fall in love" with our children when they are born because of the hormones our bodies release during and after childbirth. Nature has wired us like this to ensure the survival of our species. However, as with anything, there are always exceptions. The courts, without any evidence to the contrary, can only assume that the mother is more competent to raise the children.

2006-08-12 07:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mellie 2 · 0 1

Because in most cases it is the father who walks.
Out of all the single parents I know, only two fathers wanted custody of their children. Certainly, my ex-husband couldn't be bothered.
Every child needs a mother and a father. You're unlucky in that your parents' marriage broke up.
There are bad mothers as well as bad fathers. One sex isn't better than the other. Your mother let you down. It's not as common, though, as the fathers who let their children down.
And it's always the children who suffer.

2006-08-12 07:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0 1

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