Will he change for the better after we have kids?
PS He's a GOOD person............he was a only child, so thats how he became so selfish =)
2006-08-12 07:32:37 · 15 answers · asked by v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Every individual is different. When you are an only child often parents do not show you how to share with others (so to speak). The best idea is to go to parenting classes with him and let him learn about what it will take to be a parent. When you are an only child you don't have siblings to take care of so honestly you just don't know how. This is a learning experience and there are some wonderful parenting classes out there. Today many schools offer this to students but unfortunately years ago we did not have that.
I think it would be good for him. He will learn that there is a lot tha the will have to give up for this children. If he doesn't have it in him to be unselfish this will help teach him how.
Best of luck.
2006-08-12 07:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by lakebridals 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not change, no, will not change at all. And he won't change later either. A selfish person needs serious help to change, and they usually laugh at the idea of getting help. I'm sorry that he is that way but glad he is a good person. You can help him try to change, involve him in everything you do with the kids and see what happens, see how he responds. Everything: baths, bedtime, feeding, stories, park play, room play, etc.
2006-08-12 07:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he will not change. He'll likely become very jealous of the time you have to spend on the kids. You might want to consider counselling now, before the kids enter the picture.
2006-08-12 07:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! My mother-in-law was an only child and having kids only made her a bigger spoiled brat who screwed up her kids. She is now an aging tyrant that people can only tolerate in very small doses... rather like poison!
2006-08-12 07:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps when you have kids. His selfishness may just be due to sheer absence of any sense of responsibility which will change when he knows there are others who he must take care of.
2006-08-12 07:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but your stuck with a selfish husband.
You need to point out when he is being selfish because he has no idea.
2006-08-12 07:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key. Give him some time and if he is still as selfish as he is now, talk to him about it. Sit him down and talk about your worries. Simple. :)
2006-08-12 07:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, time will make him change. if not u can do one thing change ur mind, dont think of future and worry. live the way as it comes
2006-08-12 07:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by sundar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll have to want to change. He won't change unless he wants to even if you have kids.
2006-08-12 07:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may change. if you really love him, give him a chance. it seems like he could change and want to be nicer and share more, but I can't be sure, only you can be.
Good Luck
2006-08-12 07:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋