How to respond to "it's another girl??"?

Question

I'll be expecting my 3rd child soon (another girl accroding to ultrasound), how do you respond to people who ask if I was trying for a boy, or whether we'll keep trying for a boy, or even boldly smirk and think that my girls are second class citizens, and ask if we're disappointed?

oops, forgot to say that "people" includes my in-laws. My husband doesn't care of the gender, just hopes for healthy and happy.

Answer 1

Say yep another girl and I'm proud and can't wait to see her beautiful face and little fingers.
If they asked if you had been trying for a boy you say nope just whatever God gives us. I got asked a lot with my third if we had been trying for a boy before we found out and we said no we just wanted one more and we will take whatever God gives us. We just hope and pray for a healthy baby.
Congratulations

Answer 2

I can't believe how bold and rude some people have become in our "civilized" society, especially regarding such private concerns surrounding the birth of a child. If anyone suggested or hinted to me that I didn't want my child because of his or her sex, I would look them straight in the eye and say, "I can't believe you would say such a terrible thing." Then, take the baby, and leave the room. That should be their cue to leave. Maybe they'll learn their lesson? Or you could say, "Disappointed?... to have three healthy, smart, and beautiful girls, no we're quite lucky."

Do these numbskulls know that there are countries where girls are so devalued that they are aborted or left at orphanages? Frankly, I think some people have trouble seeing other people happy. They want to see if they can inject drama or ugliness into a situation. I hope you have few to none of these people on your visiting list after the baby is born. If their visit can't be helped, make sure another person (hubby) limits the time such persons have with you. Or maybe you can suddenly remember an appointment during their visit?

EDITED to say: Since these people are your in-laws, your situation is of course more delicate. You can't really rush off to escape them now can you. You can't (or shouldn't) offend them either. Well, it sounds like they are the ones who want you to have the boy, and might be disappointed. You could jokingly remind them that they got their "boy," your husband that is, _____ years ago. If it's really important for gramps to mentor a male youth, he could always volunteer with the local Boys & Girls Club. If you suggest this option seriously, perhaps even handing out a brochure, maybe that'll help them give this line of conversation a rest? Another thought, I went fishing with my grandfather and dad when I was little. Maybe the grandparents haven't considered that girls can do many things now that they weren't encouraged to in the past? (I'm thinking of the Women's Basketball League and NASCAR.)

Here's a link about gender parity in sports. It's a great question from a grandfather suggesting that involving grandparents in girls' sports would be a way to positively influence girls' lives:
http://www.pbs.org/newshour/forum/may97/ix02.html
Maybe dad and grandpa can both coach for your girls' sports team(s) someday?

Congratulations on your baby girl-to-be!

Answer 3

Congratulations on the pending birth of your little girl! You can just let people know that you have a wonderful family and that you love your little girls very much. Of course you are not disappointed (sure, you may have wanted a boy, but the choice to try for one and the way you feel about it all is a private matter).
When they ask if you are going to try for a boy, ask them when they are going to try to learn some manners lol

Answer 4

You owe no one an explanation of this pregnancy at all! Just pleasantly tell anyone who asks that you love children and just hope that the baby is healthy; after all, all that matters is another healthy baby for your other little girls to love like you and your husband love them. Then change the subject. If they don't get the hint, you REALLY don't owe them any explanation. Congratulations on your new little girl. What fun you will have with clothes, makeup, shoes, etc. Enjoy!

Answer 5

You should say 'yeah, we think that other two girls needed another sister and I've always liked daughters...having been one myself' Besides what's the point when both girls and boys leave eventually for college, kids are gifts we only have for a while. And do tell them that it wasn't you that decided the gender of the baby, you're good but not 'that God - like!'

Answer 6

Don't worry about what other people say. You want a normal healthy full term baby. Boy or Girl , It's a blessing and a gift that you should be glad to have.

Answer 7

Don't worry about what other people think. If you are happy with a girl and with your other girls thats all that matters. I am the opposite of you I have one girl and four boys. I wouldn't mind having another girl but if I get another boy I wouldn't be upset about it. Frankly I am happy with my boys and whom ever doesn't like it screw em. Enjoy your girls as they will be giving you lots of grandbabies to enjoy in your golden years. Congrats to you. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy. God Speed.

Answer 8

Tell people just that, "We don't care, as long as our child is happy and healthy". Or answer the question with the same degree of rudeness with whcih it was asked!! Soon enough they will get the idea!

Answer 9

If I was to be pregnant right now and someone asked me those questions i would tell them that yeah it a girl and as long as the baby is healthy i dont care what the sex is!

Answer 10

Maybe you can deflect it by saying something, like, "we're so excited! It's another girl!" , in response to the boy/girl question. If you answer like that, maybe people won't feel the need to ask. Good luck