and then after a year they tend to cool down.
2006-08-12 06:35:28 · 16 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the first year he never wanted to leave my side. and he always wanted to stay here. now he doesn't stay here as much and it hurts my feelings, makes me feel like he likes someone eles even though he tells me time and time again that he would never leave me cause he loves me with all his heart.
2006-08-12 06:43:06 · update #1
who knows its always like that....maybe you should try new things buy a sex book to try and keep the sec life alive and dont let it die out
2006-08-12 06:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Jen!
Everything is new & exciting in the beginning. A new car, you take such good care of it babying it buying it new things, etc. Until the first scratch or dent. New toys at Christmas when you were a kid. Vacations always start out fun, but after a while you just want to get home to familiar surroundings.
Relationships are no different. They TAKE WORK!!! Now days, unfortunately most younger people don't want to put the work into a relationship. They just want to find someone else to feel that "NEW" feeling again. It's sad. My husband, before he was my husband was like that. He didn't want the responsibility of working on anything. He just wanted to do "HIS OWN THING". We have known each other for better than 30 years, our families are friends. Anyway, when we got together after 18 years of not seeing each other, we both had a chance to look things over & decided we are the same kind of people. We very much enjoy being together & doing things to gether, but we also like our time alone. I know for a fact that he loves me, I don't need him right there all of the time to prove it. In fact that would make us BOTH nuts!!! Allowing each other their own space & their own time makes our time together even better. It gives us a lot more to talk about because we were both not experiencing the same things.
Maybe I'm just an old lady at 41 & I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND but I do know that we can Love without smothering & relationships JUST PLAIN TAKE WORK. If one or the other is NOT willing to sit down & discuss the others feelings let it go, let them go. But also do NOT harp on it!!!! Until you have an actual reason to doubt his fidelity & honesty try to TRUST him, unless you have a history of him hiding things from you & lying.
Also, try to remember that being friends before ANYTHING else is best. Eventually, the you will have to be together with your clothes on. It won't do you much good to ONLY have that in common!!!!!
2006-08-12 14:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a couple begins a relationship they're excited about the new person they are going to know. Empaty, idiosincracy and other proper caracteristics of each one will define how the relation will work.
Once the time pass, both of you know each other better than in the beginning and you realize that sth has changed. It's the time that has done its work. When a relationship grows, the passion and admiration go down little by little. That's how a couple evolution. If both of you are mature, you will notice that and will find the best way to afford it.
Get some help from friends and people you trust.
2006-08-12 14:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by michifu666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in the beginning everything is all new and fresh...and your learning about that person and expirencing things together. Then after a while you just get use to things and it's not the same because they happen all the time.
I know exactly what your going through, I am going through it right now..and it's like so borring...it's like the relationship is just winding down.....
2006-08-12 13:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by jmt4127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats is easy to answer. when you first meet someone emotions are high and adrenaline is pumping everything is new and a novelty.. things dont die they just slow down and calm down and it should still be good and exciting too many people get stuck in a rut so always make sure you have time for each other, time to go out with each other and time to listen to each other and dont let things go stale. the initial excitement goes but the love should grow stronger
2006-08-12 13:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by pankypaxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year?? you'll be lucky to last a week. Maybe cause at first he wants in the pants, then after youu give it up so many times he gets bored and starts looking at net porn. try going down on him in random and odd places, that should spice things up. just make sure you bring a sandwich with you.
2006-08-12 13:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its new...its exciting..feeling that first kiss..or the first anything with someone new is so much fun! Then you start to get comfortable....but if it is true love..you will never feel that..it will always be like the first time.
2006-08-12 13:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by ~♡~julietcs~♡~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at first they r learning about eachother everyday then when it's been a year or so they tend to cool down because they r used to eachother and kno everything of eachother
2006-08-12 13:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they cool down because ppl get lazy to find new exciting ways to keep it alive. a relationship in order to keep it exciting you have to work at it. just like anything else. you dont think that things are just going to be happily ever after. you always have to spice it up but it take 2 to do it. more tips on relationships and dating on this site
2006-08-12 13:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read about this, and there are certain chemicals in the brain...can not get technical sorry, that are released when we are visually and sexually stimulated from the excitement of newness. With time that excitement goes away as you get to know your partner, so the chemicals go away also. The key is to literally use your brain to re-stimulate.
2006-08-12 13:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋