how can i avoid this in the future with someone else? what did i do wrong?
and is there any way to get him back?
2006-08-12 06:31:52 · 23 answers · asked by Moe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, it wasnt you, it was some stupid excuse to leave cuz he wants to date other people. You dont need somebody like that in your life. You should want someone who wants to be with you and only you. But I guarentee, he will comeback to you cuz he will eventually realize he messed up. But speaking from experience dont get back with him. Cuz in time he will pull that **** again. Just move on and you will find someone who is worthy to have you.
2006-08-12 06:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by dointhangs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want a person back who views the relationship as "too easy for him"? I don't know all the details, but I can say that men often become repelled by a person who's trying to become a mirror image of themselves -- have all the same interests, all the same friends, and so forth. When you understand that you and the person you're with are individuals before you're a couple.
Once you become assertive in a relationship by saying to a man, "I love you, but this is who I am," you'll no longer be the same person your ex wanted to be with in the first place, so getting him back would be fruitless anyway. But you will have his respect, and sometimes that's more important than love. And you always want your romantic partner's respect, so you'll complement each other rather than be identical to each other.
I can't say what you "did wrong"; possibly your ex just felt it was time to move on. Rather cadly behavior, I might add. But you ultimately don't want to be in a relationship that's "too easy" either. Relationships either grow or shrink, there is no middle ground. Don't play TOO hard to get, but don't settle for anything less than your best and who is best for you. Doubtless the man you enter a relationship with next is following the same rule.
Have a great day, and may your relationship be especially blessed!
2006-08-12 13:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by ensign183 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does that mean? I don't think that means anything. It sounds like you didn't do anything wrong. Long term relationships should be easy, there shouldn't be a bunch of drama and BS. That's for kids. Sounds to me like he just wanted an excuse to break up and sleep with someone else. I wouldn't waste the time trying to get back with him.
2006-08-12 13:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was too easy then one of you should have done something to spice things up a bit,and he is NOT totally blameless here, if he was the one iwth the problem with it then he should have taken the time to make some changes for both of you and not assume that was your task to do. Don't waste your time on someone that lazy, find a real man who knows how to keep the love alive. You can do things to keep the love alive also by doing little things to please him and also making sure you praise him alot because men like to feel they are given some credit for doing their best, everyone does including you don't givve with out getting any in return make sure he is as excited about your accomplishments as you are about his.
2006-08-12 13:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by waddabunchabologna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot get him back but then, why would you? If you hadn't said "yes" a few minutes into your first date - you know, that first meeting in the ally - he wouldn't have filed you as "easy." Women who give it away without a committed relationship are seen by men as easy, trashy and stupid. In the future don't be any of those three things.
2006-08-12 13:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make yourself too available. I think guys like a challange. Not necessarily all of them, but a good portion of them do. I do find this totally rediculous, but it's true. My boyfriend, who is helping me out here, says that he probably just used that as an excuse for something else. So, there ya have both male and female opinion in one :)
2006-08-12 13:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men like women who have their own opinion, don't agree with everything he says don't answer the phone every time he calls, let him wonder a little about you, never be an open book. and don"t ever play mind games, even if some of my answers may seem like. everyone likes a little challenge. don't be to easy. good luck
2006-08-12 13:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by claude's wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what that means. Never heard it before but maybe it means you made yourself too available to him, let him do whatever he wanted to do whenever he wanted to do it. Did he walk all over you ? Men like a challenge.
2006-08-12 13:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to move on, you didnt go into detail on the relationship. it all depends on the people. it isnt the end of the world, there are others out there. also if you truly think it can work again, then go 4 it, if its meant to be its meant to be
2006-08-12 13:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by leon11357 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't getting the straight story. Why would you want a guy back that didn't tell you the truth?
2006-08-12 13:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋