He's 22 I'm 19 & we seem to really click. We talk dirrty over the phone sometimes, bt there's never bn mention of us hooking up as a couple. I don't do one night stands coz i bliev that i'm more than just a vagina. How can i get him 2 understand this? I'd like him as a boyfriend, instead of just a sex buddy. I value myself too much.
2006-08-12 06:22:14 · 14 answers · asked by AfroSistah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to draw the line. It's up to you to decide what you do or do not do. Dirty talk is lots of fun, and there is nothing wrong with it. It's a good way to get in touch with your sexuality and your sensuality. But if there has been no discussion of future, relationship or hooking up seriously, then he IS just out for sex. And you're right, you do deserve to treat yourself better!
2006-08-12 06:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by rhiwedhel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you need to stop having dirty talks with him over the phone. If you talk dirty to a guy of course he is going to think you are willing to drop your panties. You need to let him know where you stand. You will not be anyone's sex buddy. Now with that your actions need to follow your words. You cannot say you are more than a vagina but then talk dirty to some guy who is not your boyfriend. Decide what you want, let him know and make sure your actions back up your words!
2006-08-12 13:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't have sex with him. If you guys reach a point of making out, push him away. if he goes home, then whatever. Try having intelligent convo's on the phone. He'll either have something smart to talk about b/c he likes you, or he'll be clueless and want to continue the sex talk, which then, I think will show he only does want sex from you. Then, moving on and finding someone else is probably a grand idea.
2006-08-12 13:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a guy. If a guy that you don't know ever talks to you, he wants to have sex with you. There are some exceptions- like if he is a friend of a friend or if he is gay. Mostly though, if any man you don't know talks to you, he wants to have sex with you. Anything he does or says from that point on is to try and get to the point where he can have sex with you. Feelings come later. The first goal is always sex. A man does not look at a woman and think "I sure would like to be friends with her" or "she sure would make a great girl friend." He looks at a woman and thinks "I sure would like to have sex with her!"
2006-08-12 13:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u already talk dirty over the phone, it may be hard for him not to think you are not easy. Respect yourself and don't send mixed messages. If you don't want one noght stand , then behave as a girl that don't do this. What u are doing is like showing the kid the candy but not letting them eat it.
2006-08-12 13:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by wantstoknowmore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question was more about your moral etics, not about what he does or does not want. you did say there was NO mention of hooking up? Why do you want him to understand it if its never been mentioned. - and if your having phone sex with him isnt that kind of leading him on?
2006-08-12 13:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by pja2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he's mature enough to sit down with. Tell him what you want from him. Maybe he is a just a little shy, and doesn't know how to approach you on this. Tell him that yu don't want to be some pussy.....
2006-08-12 13:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by luv him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you guys don't hook up and he want's sex get out of that relationship INSTANTLY if that happens he just want's your for sex
there's a song about this
"Just cause we're friends your arms around my neck doesn't mean i'm gonna let you into these jeans"
2006-08-12 13:26:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forward this question to him and let him know he is the subject of the question....if you stand your ground and let him know what you don't want he will either be your boyfriend or he will find someone else who don't mind putting out
2006-08-12 13:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by USuck79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then tell him that. if he understands and agrees with u then give him a chance but if he says no then forget bout him. move on
2006-08-12 14:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋