How desperate is a guy who contacts you after 5 or more years.?

Question

He's ignored me ever since and has kept my hotmailadress but doesn't use it until now and asks if I remember him and what I'm up to these days.
Oh yeah, I do mean desperate on sex.

We had an affair and I suspected he had a relationship fully or off/on.
Guys who don't give straight answers or goes in circles generally I try to dismiss but the sex felt good, and you know when you've been there once you might aswell go there twice or thrice... But it ended, selfexpired in lack of shared opinion on bedmates. I was pro bedmate. Which he said he was too and then ranted on about one having more feelings than the other... in analogies. But he did ignore me completely after that and seemed very happy with his life and action. Like it never happened.

Answer 1

sounds like he figured he could do better and has problem been blown off by some hot babe and now figures hey i can call her she will show me a good time she did use to like me all those years ago low em off like he did you after all you dont know what he been doing

Answer 2

He may be desperate or maybe he's just wants to use you or even want to have an affair if he's married or has a long time girlfriend. Forget him and do as you have been done. (Not a good habit of doing!) Tell him it's been nice to hear from him but you've- been there- done that -then don't keep his hot mail address & ignore him. You have moved on and the past is never as good as it seemed so keep him there! Good luck! You also didn't say what ended it the first time. That may hold alot of weight on your decision!

Answer 3

Maybe he has been busy,and thought that you were involved with other people which after 5 years I am sure you were.
Why get mad at him..See him and see how things will work out,maybe things have changed in 5 years and you will see him differently and you will seem different to him also.
After you did have a some kind of a past ,sexual or whatever,but maybe now he is ready to settle down and remembers your good qualities after playing the field,and you showed up as his number one girl,so if I were you..I would be flattered .
Go out with him and have a good time..if it don't feel right ..you are the girl holding all the cards..end the date.
end of story ..(maybe)

Answer 4

Have you ever thought about someone you met or was with years ago and wonder how they are? Have you ever liked someone and had not guts to tell them? Maybe after a few years this person is not desperate but had the nerve to contact you because you were on their mind... don't think the worst all the time..

Answer 5

Thats pretty bad, I have an ex like that, we only been broken for past 8 months but he calls at the strangest times and its for sex. He doesnt ever get it but he wont bother with me til another couple of more weeks and the same ****. People like that are sad, I think that have low self-esteem and they should get some help. But to answer your question, very desperate and alone that guy must be.

Answer 6

So he was in a relationship that ended and now wants to see you. That is no big deal.
If he wants sex on the first date dump him.

Answer 7

ignore him or try giving him a chance. he might have changed since those 5/6 yrs. talk to him and c how he is. usually wen a guy is depserate for sex, theyll say things like "o u wanna go to bed with me?" and stuff like that. if he does say those things then u noe wat he wants from u. but if he doesnt say those things and hes like nice then maybe u shuld give him a chance.

Answer 8

Not desperate, just wants to rekindle the old flames lol

Answer 9

Take it slow with this guy. If he is just desperate for sex then lose him altogether.

Answer 10

I think u should go cool on this. if u think he is desperat on sex avoid him or if u like him go ahead. all the bes