I'm 15 and of corse live with my parents. All we ever do is fight and argue. Most of the time it's about my boyfriend cause they don't like him very much. I don't know why but they just don't. But other times it's about , well just everything. Here lately there has not been one day that went by that we don't get along. My dad tells me all the time that I'm causing him and mom to argue and going to cause him to have a heart attack Sometimes I don't even do anything and they just come and scream at me Well like todayI woke up and went into the kitchen and asked mom if she was making breakfast and she started screaming at me telling me I can make my own then dad started in screaming at me too I've had it today I don't want to live here no more I know I don't have a choice but so many thoughts have crossed my mind today I just want to be able to get along Oh yeah and I always get told I'm ruining there lives So I need some ideas on how to get along or someway a 15 year old can move out tnx
2006-08-12 05:57:07 · 7 answers · asked by Kaci Loves John 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Usually when parents dislike a boyfriend there is a good reason for it. Try to see their side on this issue. I think your family needs counseling for all of you. Can you suggest that to your parents? Let them know that you want to get along and please them but you don't know how. A third party may be able to help you all smooth out the rough spots so that you can get along better.
2006-08-12 06:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the most important passage: "Most of the time it's about my boyfriend cause they don't like him very much. I don't know why but they just don't."
Teenage girls get boy crazy and find the worst boys they can find. Maybe it is rebellion, maybe it is hormones, maybe it is stupidity. Ten years from now you will look back at this guy and wonder what the FV(k you wer thinking. Dump him now and find a nice boy. Since neither of your parents like him, there must be a reason that you are not seeing. As I said it is possible you are blinded by hormones or stupidity. In any case there is likely something wrong with this guy and moving out won't solve the problem and will only make it worse.
Let me guess. He is a punk, he smokes, he has a car, wants you to have sex with him, and does all the things your parents tell you NOT to do. Avoid him like the plague. While it might seem exciting and cool now, if you get pregnant and dumps you, you will not find it cool.
2006-08-12 13:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by hack_ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT RUINING THEIR LIVES! NO child should be told that. I am sorry you are in such a hard situation. Sounds like mom and dad have other issues going on besides their teenager.
What to try: Which ever parent you feel closer to, (hard choice, but pick one) wait till a moment of calmness is in the house, calmly go up to that parent when they are not busy and say something like: "Mom/Dad, I am really concerned about the way we fight. Can we calmly talk about how to stop the fighting?"
Then: You need to listen to what they have to say. Don't make this a complaining session for you. Ask if you guys can reach a compromise on whatever you guys are fighting about. Be mature about the whole thing and control your temper. If you feel yourself losing control, calmly say, "OK, I can't finish this conversation, can we stop and try again later? I don't want to fight anymore."
Let them know you love them! Control your temper! That can go along way in controlling the situation.
2006-08-12 13:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by penagian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you shouldn't even have a boyfriend. You are too young. But if your parents allow it then that's their call. Think of this, if you are old enough to have a boyfriend and old enough to start thinking about moving out...then you should be old enough to fry up some eggs and butter up some toast. I agree with your folks on this matter. There will be plenty of time in the future for dating and boyfriends. Just enjoy being a kid and having parents. You never know when you turn around and they won't be there anymore. Then you'll wish you had taken advantage of your youth.
2006-08-12 13:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by bella_mexicana_rellena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over the weekends, set your alarm clock 15-30 mins. before theirs. So when you wake up, you can make them a small special meal in bed or sometin. And then if that dosen't work, then clean the house for them, or do the laundry, and if that dosen't work, then when they call you for dinner, say you're not hungry. And then you don't have to fight with them, so they;ll have a guilty feeling in them. And if that dosen't work, then I don't know what will. GOOD LUCK, THOUGH.
2006-08-12 13:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by rosey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-12 13:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump ur boyfriend. problem solved
2006-08-12 13:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋