I met this girl, the kind of scenario where you spend all day and night, hanging out, talking, laughing...it was beautiful, which we repeated a few days after.
She has a boyfriend, whom she does like, but he's 3,000 miles away.. and he was coming into town for a month.. I told her to have great time.. hopefully we'll catch up at a later time.
6 weeks go by, and I rang her.. she said she was just thinking of me; we got together again.
For 3 weeks now, she has stayed over almost every night.. calling & texting 2-3 times a day... and I her.
We admitted to each other that we are falling in love with each other.
We had a few tiffs, because I couldn't deal with feeling so strong, while she's spoken for.. nothing major though.
She just went on vacation to see her family, where her boyfriend lives as well.. she will be seeing him..
she texted me just before saying "she realizes she put me in a spot, but that she's in the same spot also, but only the logical part of her is sorry."
2006-08-12 05:44:27 · 12 answers · asked by Pablo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys, just to clarify, she isn't cheating on him.. Because of the distance between them, they do have an open relationship.. I wouldn't have given her the time of day had she been cheating.
2006-08-12 06:06:21 · update #1
I don't know let me consult my crystal ball. Oh, I am sorry that was uncalled for. If it is right then she will. Good luck
2006-08-12 05:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by teacher1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to expect her to make a decision between the two of you. She should be up front with the other guy, too. I wouldn't wait around too long, though. If she's sincere, her decision may be difficult, but she won't let too much time lapse before she chooses either you or him. If she's playing around, liking the "excitement" of the situation, then she'll drag this thing out longer... if she does that, it's your clue to walk away.
2006-08-13 00:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance romances never last. It is just a matter of time before this breaks up. However, have you considered that this girl is willing to cheat on her alleged boyfriend? Most likely he is cheating on her as well. But still, if she will cheat on him, she won't have any problem cheating on you too. I hope you will take your time with this one. (at least two years) It will take awhile before you really find out what kind of character she really has. In the meantime, it would not hurt to date other people also.
2006-08-12 12:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't make her decide between the two of you. If she feels like she has to make a decision because you are pressuring her, she might choose him. Even if she is with him on vacation, tell her you understand. You did say you love her. She will really love you even more. Besides, her being with him on vacation is only temporary. This whole situation could turn out to your advantage if you play your cards right.
2006-08-12 12:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by answer man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like this woman is just going for the guy that's "there" at the moment. Honestly don't waste your time, you will be playing ping pong (her being the ball). Besides if she has a bf you know she cannot be trusted since she was with you while in a relationship.
2006-08-12 12:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...she will continue this pattern until something happens. She has two guys in two cities that lavish attention on her. What is not to like about that. But you do have to ask yourself; If she can cheat on her boyfriend now would she ultimately cheat on you later? my advice is to find a girl who is not currently atached.
2006-08-12 12:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by dpon62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she hasn't made her mind yet in choosing between you both. Ask her frankly to do so in the soonest possible time and to never let you hang about like a rag doll.
2006-08-12 12:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but you're asking the wrong folks. She's the only one who can answer your question. That's a very, very good story and a good beginning.
2006-08-12 12:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is most likely going to forget about him because having someone to love you and comfort you in person is far more better than over-the-phone love.
2006-08-12 12:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Silly KeKe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will she leave him for u? Hmmm... i dunno, but if she leaves him for you, she will do the same to you!! Why would you want a woman who obviously cheats? If she is cheating on him, she'll cheat on you!! Forget her until she's single and available. Otherwise your just asking for alota confusion, trouble, and being hurt.
2006-08-12 12:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by tyrawooley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋