how do i get over my shyness?

Question

plz help me

Answer 1

i used to be sooooooooooooooo shy that i couldn't even talk and whenever me n my family used to go some where any party or some thing i had to just hide myself by my mommy and even ppl used to ask me a question my face would have turned to red and i couldn't reply them back ( i was around 18) so what i did i got a job some where that i had to go alone i had to talk n be with ppl , and went on with that job trust me now am not shy at all and besides every body likes me becoz i talk a lot and i got my confidence and found out that every body wants to join my company do some thing about that befor u go ahead as a shy head

Answer 2

Hi. Find some friends who you can talk to and take small steps toward doing the things you are shy about. Then talk with your friends during or after your forray out of your comfort zone. If you don't have friends who will work with you like this - work with a group therapy group that will focus on shyness. You should be able to find one led be a kind and skilled therapist.

I am basically shy but working with group therapy settings helped me not let the basic shyness hold me back. Good luck.

Answer 3

hello i am kenna. The reason y iam answering your question is because i am shy too. but the reason how i get over it is this.

I have a band and i am the singer, i tell my mom that i will struggle in singing if i am so shy i can barely talk to my dad about things. Well i just got out there and pretended they were all in there underwear. Another way is that i pretend this is a dream or u can also grouw out of ur shyness thats what my grandma did and now she talks all the time. if u would like to email me at [e-mail] u are more than welcome to for more questions. p.s. just pass ur fears nothing will happen unless u make it happen in public u have to be strong and brave.

Answer 4

Check your assumptions. If you're the type who always tells themselves, "I'm going to make a terrible impression," question the assumption. You haven't made terrible impressions before, have you? So isn't it irrational to think you will this time? Relax.

Breathe boldly. Dry mouth? Racing heart? To relax further, breathe slowly and deeply.

Play Barbara Walters. Not sure what to say? Pretend you are a journalist. Think of something that particularly interests you. Then make up a question about that interest. For example, "How do you feel about taking pictures in the park?" Now try answering the questions you just made up, out loud.

Talk to the mirror first. To make it easier to talk to other people, talk to the mirror first. This will help you feel comfortable expressing your thoughts and feelings. Think of three to five questions you can ask and then answer.

Set goals. Promise yourself you'll say at least one thing to one person within the first minute of arriving."Once you've said one thing, it's usually easier to say the next."

Give yourself time. If you need more time, say to yourself, 'Okay, I need 30 minutes to warm up instead of three.

Some people can jump into the middle of a group and are comfortable immediately. Others feel shy when they first walk into a gathering but are fine once they've had time to warm up.

Practice. The more exposure you have to anxiety-producing situations, the easier they'll be for you. If, like many shy people, you're afraid to give presentations, keep at it. Join a public speaking club like Toastmasters where you can practice in a supportive atmosphere. If meeting new people makes your palms sweat, keep doing it. Attend work-related functions, social hours at church and similar get-togethers.

:)) Good luck babe.

Answer 5

Shyness is a disorder that ocurs in the mind , think of it this way, who's going to know unless you let it become known, that you are shy , you are the only one that knows this before you meet anyone new. No one knows and to tell you the truth no ones paying attention to anything except their own anxieties,you can be anyone you want to be,I recommend being yourself ,but first you have to know who you are first. When a person knows themself,and who they are,you'll find that conversations just flow . When you know all this your confidence will sky rocket thats a promise ,go try it today!

Answer 6

It is hard to be shy. A lot of people mistake it for being a snob, and that is usually far from the truth. You just HAVE to take a step, you HAVE to force yourself to talk to the people around you. This might sound dumb, but something that always helps me, is just smiling at someone and saying..."So, are you from here? " or " Have you lived here all your life?" Those are really good questions that put the ball in the other person's court, usually they tell a story...or just give a simple answer. I usually ask people if they like it ...and that leads to a conversation. And of course you will get answers from people who act like they do not want to talk. They may be shy themselves, or just not very social people. But don't give up...I promise you, if you just start asking the people around you questions....you'll be surprised how easily a conversation stars. If you go somewhere like for coffee everyday, or your local burger joint, try it on the person who serves you. Or try your waiter at a restaurant. They will be surprised, and they will answer you. Good luck!!!!

Answer 7

You have to remember that you're just as good as anyone else out there; don't let them intimidate you. There's really no magic word that can make you not shy anymore. Just keep getting out there with people, making conversation, being friendly. Remember that people perceive you differently than you perceive yourself, so when you make a mistake, they don't mind nearly as much as you think they do.

Answer 8

Tell yourself that you are beautiful, strong, and you have alot to
offer people(both compassionately or passionately). Also tell
yourself if anyone makes you feel inferior or not part of a group,
you'll make them pay.

Answer 9

I used to have that problem, too. To get over shyness, I just breathe in and out. Try to remember good times to forget about being shy, and if you imagine your friends standing right next to you cheering. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Find something that you're really passionate about and then get involved. You will find that your passion and zest for what you are doing takes over any self-doubt that you may have.