Does my son love me?

Question

My 4 yr old is very attached to my mom, which is great but I feel like he doesn't want me around, he always wants to go to her house and sleep over there and if I say no lets spend time me and you he will start to cry..I consider myself a good mother..I work hard to take care of us because of bills so I do work 2 jobs and I try to make the time we have together fun but he never wants to spend anytime with me what should I do:(

Answer 1

While you work where does your son go? If the answer is with grandma, really what do expect? They build a bond with the person they spend the most time with. It does not mean he loves you any less. It just means that grandma has been there more than you. She has a lot of free time and of course spoils a little bit as is grandmas right. As we get older we have many more patience because we have half the stress. Try to spend quality time watching his movies and stuff like that and try to be patient. It is hard to watch your children be raised by other people. I know. In a perfect world woman would stay home with their kids. Or the fathers would stay home with their kids. It really makes for more well rounded kids. Remember it is not how much money you spend, it is how much time you actually spend listening to exactly what your child is trying to tell you. Quality time having dinner together talking about his day or watching a movie is really nice for them. And at 4 he is able to be treated as a person not a child in many ways.

Answer 2

Well Children have the tendency to spend more time with their grand parents , and thats quite natural. He is just 4 yr old ,so wait until he grows up .... It seems that you are just being a bit possessive about your son , but frankly speaking if he pampers you then you might not even get time to do your work ... Just because he is more attached to your mom ,doesnt mean that he is going to forget you , dont let this things affect your relationship with your mom or son

Answer 3

You have to understand that he is still 4 yrs old, and he doesn't have any idea what choosing or preferring is. First you said you have 2 jobs, that means that you don't spend too much time with him. second if you have two jobs means your mother is who takes care of him most of the time. last, you don't have to worry about it, everything on its time ... do not push it. I understand he is your son, but you also have to understand that he spends more time with your mother than you

Answer 4

Don't feel guilty. My 2 1/2yr old daughter told me "I stay with Nana, mama go." Ouch! It was only when I told her I would be sad, and (more importantly), her friends wouldn't get to see her this weekend, then she decided she was okay to drive back home with me.

At first it made me sad, but then I realized it was part of being a kid. A lot of parents have told me their kids have said stuff like this to them. You just have to tell your son it would make you sad if he didn't spend time with you, that you love him, that you like being with him, and if all else fails, you just have to tell him "we're not going to grandma's right now, we'll go another time."

Answer 5

Grandma's house is fun...its not that he doesn't love you..he is just trying to gain independence. Be thankful that he has a grandparent that wants to spend time with him. Eventually your relationship will become closer as he grows.

Answer 6

Could be that your mom is spoiling him to death,,,,maybe he does anything he wants over there, Maybe it;s a secret plot to take him away from u...god i hope not but it could happen.
Go with him the next time. Spend the night and see what he likes about it.

Answer 7

what is grandma doing that your not? or what is she letting him do that you dont? just spend quality time with him hes young and loves you



mine would rather be with my husband than me i work hes a stay at home dad

Answer 8

Part of that is just being a kid............... my daughter nearly crushed me when she said she only wanted her grandma and not me......... but she'll grow out of it I promise. Also, if your mom is her caregiver while you work she is going to associate more with her, entirely not yoru fault, please understand this, but she's the fun one and your the one who makes her take a bath, go to bed and do the not fun stuff.........

Answer 9

HE IS BONDED WHITH YOUR MOM PROBLY BECOUSE SHE SPOILS HIM IF ITS A PROBLEM TALK TO YOUR MOM ABOUT OBAYING THE RULES EVEN WHEN YOUR NOT THERE AND MAKE MORE TIME TO SPEND WHITH HIM IF YOU CAN IF NOT THEN MAKE THE TIME YOU DO SPEND WHITH HIM QUALITY REMEMBER ITS QUALITY NOT QUANTATY THAT COUNTS