2006-08-12 05:06:39 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you women would take my advice YOU would have one less disgrace to deal with.
2006-08-12 05:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by evilposterchild 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leaving an abusive spouse isn't as easy as people think it is...there is usually love, even though he may treat you badly. It ends up becoming a controlling situation mainly through fear of comebacks from the abuser. YES LEAVE...have support when you do and do NOT go back under any circumstances...that will be a victory to him. Say something and do it....and make sure when you leave you have someone there with you ( if it inolves a move from your home) ...he will be unlikely to try anything when someone else is there. Most abusers are cowards and they have a fear of being left or not being in control. They try and do this by using fear and violence. It's a vicious circle, the longer you stay the harder it is to get away. If there are children involved, do not be bribed into making you feel guilty about taking them away. It's all about your saftey now. You know what you NEED to do now. GOOD LUCK !!!! PS keep a journal of any abuse, physical or verbal...times, things said and done.....then if you need to contact the police you have some written evidence. DO NOT LET HIM SEE THIS.
2006-08-12 05:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out as fast as you can while you still can. Abuse can only get worse. Let several close to you know whats going on and even contact the authorities. You or no other person has to put up with abuse. You need to get more self esteem and know that you can and will do better. The abuser will promise this is the last time they do this whether it be physical or mental abuse but then they turn around and keep doing it. Hon get out please..cause gifts and begging for forgiveness don't make the pain go away. Abuse shows he has no respect for you and Without respect there is no relationship..
2006-08-12 05:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by just_libs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and how can you call the bum a b/f? why are you of all people still around somebody who abuses you? go look at yourself in a mirror, and ask yourself, what have i done to myself to be in this situation. if someone has to tell you you need to get out , would you listen? no you wouldn't. but if you think LOVE has anything to do with it, your idea of love is tainted!!don't try to tell me i love him, he's said he's going to change and all that other b/s, cause it's the same old sad responses everyone hears. the only one who can change that relationship is you. and your a big girl now so you tell me, why are YOU in the relationship with an abusive person? is that what you wanna be in? NO? then tell me,DO YOU think he's going to change? no he's not...... try looking on www.plentyoffish.com you will find a man, a REAL MAN, who doesn't abuse women . who knows you might even find me on their
2006-08-12 05:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on the boyfriend for the first time he abused you. Shame on you for the rest of the time. You are the only one who can put a stop to an abusive relationship. Honey, it ain't love if he's gonna hurt you. Get out ASAP!!! Goodluck!
2006-08-12 05:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by crazyboutracin8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Talk somebody parents, who ever, that will take it as serious as it can be. And get a restraining order. Though a restraining order most likely keep him away it will give you recourse to further legal action should he continue to be a problem. Just don't rely on the problem going away on it's own. That's just setting yourself up for possible something worse. Take control of the situation, with help as needed.
2006-08-12 05:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a abusive boyfriend, and I had to get out of there before the next time he would kill me. He is no good if he beats on you.
2006-08-12 05:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let someone close to you know about it; someone that you trust. They can advise you, and be there for you. Don't keep it to yourself! Make sure soomebody else in your life knows so they can help you though it, and be there if it really gets ugly.
Here's the unfortunate kicker...it's just a matter of time before it really gets ugly. I'm sorry to hear you situation, and hope you realize that someone is out there that is going to love you, make you feell special and never hurt you. He's just waiting for you to realize this yourself!
Good Luck
2006-08-12 05:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by apshawnhunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him while you can cause the more that you get involved in an abusive relationship no matter what kind of abuse the harder that it is to get out of it so leave him while there is still hope and allow yourself a chance to heal before you start to date again and dont enter into another abusive relationship
2006-08-12 05:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Switch roles, surprise him it may startle him enough to stop. If not butt out asap, because in the long run you will hurt more than your body. Plus if you have plans on having kids with him he may take out some of his anger on them. In turn your kids may end up being abusive because it was their given example. Just think where and when and how you want to stop this.
2006-08-12 05:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People saying just leave him obviously don't understand the situation!
If you live in the UK dial 0800 11 11 it's a freephone number for childline they will tell you the best thing to do. Or get in contact with your family for advice!
2006-08-12 05:10:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋