I say they are too exspensive, and i like to treat myself. They get mad as hell wit me, I'm not saying i dont want any, just not now. Then they always say it doesnt bother me i can still do the things i want, I say hell no, kids take away from something i used this example, If i have a girl friend and we dont have kids we dont need a two bedroom apartment, but if we do have a kid we would need two. There are some costs that people don't realize like, if its me and her we go out to eat its 60, with a kid its 80 dollars, she could never admit that kids take extra money from you, even if you realize it or not. Then another women said she alright because she gets child support, i explained to her what if you did not get it, you wouldn't be able to keep your lights on, so how can kids not effect you financially
2006-08-12 04:21:01 · 9 answers · asked by raradaone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
someone said its immature to look at them as a financial woe, but when that little bundle of joy comes and we cant half pay the bills, then what who immature
2006-08-12 04:41:36 · update #1
Yes, I agree. It may seem wrong, but when I think child- I think expenses, expenses, expenses.. all the way through their college education!! I want to be in a good financial situation, a homeower and set in a succesful career before kids are an option. It would be unfair to them and myself if let it happen otherwise. Ignore those women who get mad at you-- you have an honest and realistic attitude about kids and $, stick to it.
2006-08-12 07:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure what your question is but I'm 29, divorced with 3 children and yes children do effect you financially and ever other way. Your problem is this, next time a woman asks you that question you should say that you don't have kids because you are not ready. Say you want to be more financially stable first so that you can properly support a child. Women get upset with the way you answer the question. Try rephrasing it and you will have better luck.
2006-08-12 11:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by RENA J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most women see the benefit of having kids and not view it as a money issue. The fact that you look at children simply as finacial woe shows you're immature or at least not to be with a woman with kids.
Next time one asks you why you dont have any say its just not happened, and you're glad because obviously you and the mother wouldnt be together AND finances..
2006-08-12 11:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have kids but I know they're expensive. Kinda sounds like the women you meet aren't experiencing the financial downfall because the father or whoever is paying for everything. I don't think you would want to get involved with someone like that. You know, don't know who to take care of anyone but themselves?!?
2006-08-12 11:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are the most wonderful pleasures in life!!! Once you expierence the joys - cost won't matter! If you are wanting to date someone that has children then I would not say that you like to treat yourself - it seems like you don't have a heart by doing that.
2006-08-12 11:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you i don't want any kids until i think am ready for them for now am just loving life without kids you and go and come as you please and don't have to worry about who's going to keep the baby and all that i agree with you total no kids until am married having kids is a blessing but am just not ready for that as yet
2006-08-12 11:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guessed u don't know the meaning of having a kids ,or u are too money minded
2006-08-12 11:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm try "I'm not ready for kids yet" it will go over a LOT better.
2006-08-12 11:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by SillyQuestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
amen. too many women with kids. where is birth control???
2006-08-12 11:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by gallow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋