is it realistic to fall in love with a 22 year old? we get a long so well.....but I don't want to fool myself into believing it could be something more. How many 22 year olds are ready to settle?
2006-08-12 04:09:38 · 29 answers · asked by michelleleestonge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
VERY few 22 year olds are ready for that.
I would say sadly that if you were a man and he a woman it would be more likely because women mature faster... some men are different though. Remember what you were doing at 22? and or your male friends? Is that what you want your man doing now?
It can work, it may not
2006-08-12 04:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22 is pretty young, but I'm sure there are some guys ready to settle down at that age. Is he educated? Have a career? (Not just a job.) Independent. Financially secure? Not many are at 22.
The age difference isn't the problem, I am involved with a man 8 years younger, too, but we're a little older - he's 28, I'm 36. We also both have children from a previous marriage and are at the same place in life, so it works for us.
I'd personally be leary of a 22 year old. But if you like him, hang out, have a relationship, see where it goes. Just because he's not ready now, doesn't mean he never will be. Question is, how long are you willing to wait?
Good luck.
2006-08-12 04:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally think it takes guys longer to fully "mature". my ex and I were the same age when we got married (21). We even have 3 kids together....but all he wanted to really do was to play video games. I had to basically do everything for him like a mother. I didn't want to be a mother to an adult. I had three kids to take care of. I ended up divorcing him. I am now married to a wonderful man who is actually 22 years older than I. (i'm now 31). Unless you got lucky and this guy is READY to settle down, then stick with it, but I have my doubts. He may say he is ready, but do you want to pick up after him like his mother??
2006-08-12 04:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by glendonite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking the wrong people here - you should be having this discussion with him. We here don't know you and we don't know him. So the answer to your question is it possible that you may have met a man eight years younger than you who might want to have a really great long-term relationship leading to marriage and children. However, he could be like alot of young men his age who think its great to date an older woman because they believe older women are more likely to put out more for them and they are more experienced in sex and more willing to explore more "options" but the idea of having a relationship she with them of any true meaning is ridiculous to them.
To be honest I would think he falls some where in the middle - but regardless - you need to be having this conversation with him and now with us and the only thing of any value - which I hope I am giving you - is that you have that conversation with him. I don't know what is the right time to have that conversation with you because I don't know enough about your situation and I really know practically nothing about either of you. But have that conversation you should.
2006-08-12 04:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say .. it can happen if you 're serious and keen enough to courage him and to support him .. but bear in mind that this love may all change from his side after 15-20 years time .. when you will become 45 years .. or so and he 's still 35 .. be clear with him about this particular point .. and never neglect it ..
If you still wanna try and enjoy the coming year and to let tomorrow to come tomorrow then go ahead ..
2006-08-12 04:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by ohwaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an acquaintance that is 36, with 2 kids the oldest being eleven. She also has two older children, the oldest graduated high school a couple years ago.
Anyway she married her 21 yr. old boyfriend last summer, after a VERY short dating period. They are as happy as can be, and he takes his role as a father VERY seriously. While I think it's rare, it's possible.
2006-08-12 04:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she likes you because you have cash to do things, you know so much, so much life experience...etc. You like her because she is easily impressed, sexy, fun....etc.
She will think you are bossy and full of crap in a few years. You will get tired of trying to be young and keeping up with her, guys looking at her and you will think she is immature.
People who do this generally want to be the "parent" in the relationship or don't want to get older. And face it, young people are more exciting in bed but that doesn't last. When you are in your 50's and she is in her 40's she will not enjoy your age differences.
2006-08-12 04:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Mad Maddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think it could be...you have the maturity that the 22 year old might need inorder to succed in life and be maybe a little later the man you need him to be inorder to settle....but......it requires patience! take it from me I only dated someone a few years older and it takes patience :) good luck! if he is not the man of your life well u can always have fun and learn from this experience.
2006-08-12 04:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by ms_fantastico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your 30 and he is 22 I dont think you should worry about a lifelong thing and enjoy the time you have...When you worry and start to think about the age difference, your are going to show it whether you want to or not...So dont! Just enjoy the time you have with eachother...Love and relationships are way to complicated to worry about what if or the future...Enjoy your NOW..Be happy...Happiness is a rare thing that doesnt happen to many people.....Good Luck
2006-08-12 04:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by mari p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is a state of mind and the sexes mature at different rates. What in heck are your worried about. Maybe he has matured (some men do) and appreciates you for the superior being that you are. If he worships the ground you walk on and obeys your every whim and command then what in hell are you complaining about? Enslave him and be happy.
2006-08-12 04:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋