Her parents aren't abusive, but they're sooo annoying! And well my wife will complain about them but every time I do she gets defensive! Isn't this a sort of double standard. Isn't she being a bad wife by not allowing me to talk about her parents?
2006-08-12 04:04:31 · 13 answers · asked by livinglife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No she is not being a bad wife.
My husband and I both have crazy parents and we both make fun of all of our parents but we have been married a long time. When we first got married it would have hurt my feelings and felt like he was making fun of me to do that.
Now that we are old married's and know that all of them are nuts it is just funny.
2006-08-12 04:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Mad Maddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes totally confusing for you for sure. You have to try and understand the way that women "think". When she is complaining about her parents, its not to get you to add anything to the conversation by doing the same complaining. What she is looking for is support and perhaps some sympathy from you. Try next time to think of her and give her a hug, or simply say something like "that has to be hard on you sweety". She is looking for you to see her feeling bad! Silly women I know!
2006-08-12 11:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it simple it is the same as if you say your child is a brat you can say it but if someone else does then you are upset. I have a very bad relationship with one of my sisters and I will say things however my husband knows that blood is thicker than water so he says nothing. He has got to the point that if I am upset at something she has done or said he just tells me it is your sister what do you want me to say and drops it. Be there to listen to your wife rant and rave but refrain from comment. The only time you are allowed to say anything is IF they do something to hurt your wife and then to them never to her.
2006-08-12 11:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you signed your rights away when you said I do!
They are her parents and she feels obligated to stick up for them. She was taught to respect them. But I am sure in the back of her head she still complains about them. She is allowed becasue they are her parents and her issues. She prob feels that you are not entitled too because you did not grow up with them.
Alex
2006-08-12 11:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Osiris2067 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sensitive situation. She can complain because she has experience these problems all her life. You can only go off of what she says, and she takes it offensively due to a connection that will always be between a family. Just listen to her and let her get it off of her chest.
2006-08-12 11:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a bad wife? no. i think you both should make a rule that neither you nor her can talk about anyones parents in a negative way and whoever breaks the rule has to do something really nice for the parent they disrespected, like mowing their lawn, buying them a nice gift, inviting them to dinner whoever slung the insult would have to prepare, stuff lilke that. good luck
2006-08-12 11:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by crazytown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you should be talking about the others parents. What's the point? I'm sure you both must have issues between yourselves that need to be resolved. Both of you need to grow up!
2006-08-12 18:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by marcy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. They are her parents not yours so just sit back and listen. It's not for you to critizize them.
2006-08-12 11:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by couchP56 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can talk about them all she wants, they are HER PARENTS!!!
She just wants you to listen, not talk about her family.
2006-08-12 11:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by gamerguy12003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U c thats whats called birth right !!!
2006-08-12 11:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by hailer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋