I love my boyfriend and we are amazing together but he isn't the best kisser and I sometimes find it very hard to get into the whole sexual thing with him,, I do it, and in the end I usually enjoy being with him but whats up with that??
2006-08-12 03:48:20 · 11 answers · asked by Melody A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should try and tell him what you like in bed. If he isn't doing it for you teach him if you don't want to leave him.
Remember though sex isn't everything in a relationship
2006-08-12 03:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by audri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to figure out what the real issue is.
First question you have to ask.. is do you find it just as difficult to be intimately involved with any other guy? Or is it just him.
If you say yes, it's difficult with any guy.. then you have to ask yourself if you may have an attraction to other girls. Hey. it is the year 2006! :)
And if it's neither, then you have to ask yourself.. if sex just isn't that important to you and you're not turned on much.
But if it's just him... then you HAVE to talk to him about it. I'd suggest you taking the lead in sexual content. Tell him to not touch you at all until the next time you make an obvious advancement in that way.
It IS possible that you are sick and tired of his groping and mollesting of you. HAH.. I do that to my wife all the time.. and sometimes I have to force myself to give her some space and let her conduct the first move.
If he's not a good kisser, you could try and teach him.. it IS possible to teach.. just by kissing all the time he can pick up how you like it.. BUT some guys are pretty dense and think they are the perfect kissers - but they're actually drooling all over you sucking your entire face in.. and others are like a chicken. .peck peck peck.
Start it off with "I want to try something different.. I read this in a book or saw it on television... try kissing me like.. this.. " You can also say "here.. hold my hand.. touch me here.. like this.. and .. right there.. if you do this and that.. but really slow first like this.. " I swear he'll get turned on as heck if you're doing it with him. BUT - only introduce one or two things a session. Otherwise he could think you're trying to overhaul him or something because he's just stupid. i.e. even if he is stupid.. take it slowly.. ACTUALLY, that's more reason to take it slowly lol.
Remember.. I'm not sure how new he is to relationships.. but remember that even if he's had 10 girlfriends.. NONE OF THEM may have linked with him like you do. So it's almost like there were no experiences in the past. It could almost be like you're his first ever real love. It can make things really awkward and tough.
Communication, experience, trial and error. Good luck
2006-08-12 04:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by game buddee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to teach him to be a better kisser for starters! It is possible to show someone how to kiss better without actually talking to them about it! Then you need to both be honest about what turns you on, what you like and dislike. Just experiment with different things sexually (keep it simple at first though!), you should have fun together doing that!
2006-08-12 03:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by homiepr8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you suffer from some level of frigidity, or lack of interest in sexual intercourse. I suggest you do some reading, perhaps see a therapist, to work on it.
2006-08-12 03:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you be his teacher on how you would like to be kissed. That might me just what you need to heat things up a bit!
2006-08-12 03:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. Just get him to loosen up. It'll come naturally sooner or later.
2006-08-12 03:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offence honey but you may not really be attracted to him. I had that problem I loved my boyfriend, spending time with him and such but when it came to physical stuff I had to force myself to do something.
2006-08-12 03:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sherrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta teach him how you like it. Tweek him a little bit. Show him what feels good to you.
2006-08-12 03:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be kinda shy, or he doesnt want to get intimate really, but it takes some time to get confident with him, what you can do is to ensure him that you are HIS. and let him do everything with you. just believe him and he'll treat you right.
2006-08-12 04:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my ex.. to a T.
Trust me honey you need to talk to him about it. Tell him what he does that you like and what you don't eventually you'll stop 'giving in' and then he'll be unhappy
2006-08-12 03:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋