Why do certain people think they have the right to critisize me?

Question

Just b/c my parenting skills are different from another mom, what gives them the right to think that I don't love and care for my kids? I got my daughter's ears pierced when she was 2 mo's old, she's 8 mo's now, and just b/c some mothers don't agree, they think I am being 'cruel' to my daughter. I feel irritated and hurt that other mother's on here choose to judge me for my decisions, and hold a grudge over it. So, b/c some moms think it's wrong to pierce ears I'm supposed to change MY mind? I'm a free soul, I have feelings, I have decisions to make. They don't see everything I do for my kids, how much I go out of my way, and work my azz off to make sure they have everything they need. And yes, I have suffered through ALL of their vaccines, each one of them, for each child I have. (3) I do believe I know what I'm doing, and b/c other moms don't like it doesn't mean I don't know or want what's best for my kids. I am their mother, I have been there for every bruise, cut and scrap

Just so you know, she never got an infection, I took very good care of her little ears...and when I took her to do it, I got my third hole as well, so we could do it together. She didn't go through the pain herself. It was only a little prick anyway.

Answer 1

Right on! forget what the other parents says! no one is perfect. I'm 7 months pregnant with a girl and i plan on getting her ears pierced as early as possible. soon as the ear piercing place tell me i can whether its 1,2,3 months I'm getting it done asap! your a good mother don't let others bring you down! remember that misery loves company.

Answer 2

Easier said than done, but don't get angry. People are ALWAYS going to have something to say about any and everything you or anyone else does. It's how people are. You cannot change them, but you can change the way you deal with or handle them!

There's nothing wrong with piercing a baby's ears early. I happen to think it is better to do it when they are young so the pain and the memory of it is less. It doesn't make you a bad mother or a person who doesn't care about your child. As long as you know your children are loved, healthy and well taken care of, forget about what others have to say. In this life, no matter what you do, someone will always find something to say - good or bad! Keep doing what you're doing!

Answer 3

Unfortunetly everyone is entitled to their opinion. I personally don't see anything wrong with piercing a babies ears, they heal quickly as long as you take care of them. Many babies have there ears pierced at a young age, and some older. It's a parents preference. And there will always be people who think piercing a babies ears is cruel or wrong.
It sounds like your a great mom and other people's opinions are just that. And I am sure the people around you support your decisions and know you are the best mom you can be. The rest is just petty and just brush that crap off your shoulder!

Answer 4

I wouldn't worry about them. I'm a mothe of 2 and my daughter had her ears pierced when she was 7, I would have had them done when she was a baby but my other half wanted to wait until she could make the descision for herself. There would be plenty of things that the mothers who are judging you would do, that you would probablly consider wrong aswell but the big difference between you and them is that you obviously understand what being a mother trully means, it's never easy, you're not perfect and you're always learning from your children. The one thing that you should be judged on is how much you love your children, gold star there! Hey, I wonder how many of those other mothers have sons with circumcised penises, it's not something I have done but what they need to remember is that your children are YOUR children and you have the right to choose how you mould their character and raise them.

Answer 5

That's right, you make YOUR own decisions, but did you ever once think that your child may not WANT her ears pierced? There is no way to know until they are old enough to make that choice for themselves, and now for your child it's too late. And there is a difference between vaccines and ear piercing. So don't try to make yourself out to be this 'sensitive to your child's pain ' kind of mom, when you knowingly caused her pain for your selfish vanity. Plus, I think earrings on a infant look ridiculous! Yes, I'm judging you, get over it!

Answer 6

While I don't necessarily agree with piercing ears at 2 months, I fully respect your decision as the mother.
Ultimately you have the responsibility of raising your child, and I assume that you are going to do the best job you possibly can.
My opinion shouldn't have any impact on the decisions you make because I don't have to deal with any of the consequences,I won't be paying for the child's college, won't be taking the child to the doctor's, etc.
It's easy to criticize.

Answer 7

Yea...Do not listen to anyone...Just let 'em say wutever they want to. They just know how to bark. I do believe that a mother always chooses the best thing for her child. And I kno that u do the same too. Like my mother...I love her so much and im missin her so much. I'm in India right now. Ive come from Thailand. And my parents r in Thailand. I just get to see them once a year only.

So dont listen to anyone. I really find it cool that ur daughter's ears pierced..I wish my mother could have done it for me too when i was small...cuz it hurts so much and got so scared when i got it done for the first time in class 6th.

Answer 8

Just ignore them there your children. Who knows exactly how and what is right for a child? there own parents not any one else. Just ignore them they are probably jealous that she looks so cute with her ears pierced and there child would look like a monkey if they got her's pierced. I've had people come up to me and tell me I shouldn't put hair ties in my daughters hair because it will make there hair fall out. I mean come on are people really that dumb? She's two long hair and kids are active get her hair out of her face so she can enjoy doing things. I just brushed it off. Bottom line is it is your choice on how you raise your children no one elses.

Answer 9

At the end of the day, it really doesn't matter what anyone else says. You know you are a good mother, so who cares what everyone else says? People are always going to judge others, especially women. It's sad to say, but women are very judgmental. Just continue to do what you are doing and forget what everyone else says. Next time they say something to you, tell them to f u c k off. They didn't have no part in making that child.

Answer 10

If you feel confident in your parenting it doesn't matter. There is plenty of stuff going on in the world and in families that if the worst you have to do is worry about a decision you made about ear piercing, you are ok.

On the other side as well. If a woman is confident in her own parenting she won't feel the need to attack someon else's that make different decision than hers.