Is it true that it's really just the the little things. Like remembering holidays or remembering their birthday or remembering their anniversary or communicating etc. That have the biggest impact when it comes to women? And is it really just the thought that counts? If so then why is that some or stereotypically said that all guys seem to either forget or have such a hard time remembering these things. I guess I wouldn't know because I'm not a girl that's why I'm asking.
2006-08-12 03:41:27 · 19 answers · asked by n8boi02 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not JUST the little things. Those things do count big time, you need to remember them to show your wife that you value your relationship enough to make a point to remember them. If you had an appointment at work would you write it down and make the effort not to forget it? Do the same for the special dates that you and your wife celebrate.
Communicating is HUGE. Look at your wife when she is speaking to you. Maybe nod your head to show you are listening. Did you hear the LISTENING part? Don't jump right in on her conversation and start trying to tell her how to fix the situation, we will tell you if we want advice. Sometimes we just want you to listen.
No, it is not just the "thought" that counts. Love is an action word. You need to show it through your actions. A non-sexual hug, or kiss when you come in the door goes a long way.
If you show attention, affection, and communicate the whole year round--then if you happen to forget a special date, she might be more forgiving. I would suggest you write the dates down, just like an appointment & be intentional about showing your love to your wife.
2006-08-12 03:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by kingskid418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is true. The little things do count.
An old saying.
Men that remember are faithful.
Men that don't are unfaithful.
Get a calendar right now and write it all down and place it where you mostly spend your time during the day. This should help.
Good Luck.
2006-08-12 10:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The little things are what remind the women why we chose you in the first place, but every now and then you still need to do something like bring her flowers for no reason or a small gift of some kind. With that and taking care of yourself a man would never be without a girlfriend if he didn't choose to.
2006-08-12 10:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by kathylovis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!! The little things matter! Women like romance . . . an occasional card or flowers, sticky notes around the house, a little gift once in a while! Hearing I Love You and you meaning it. A kiss when you wake up and before you go to bed. Holding, caressing, back rubs, foot massages.
Of course, all this SHOULD be reciprocated by the woman to YOU!
THAT is what makes a relationship! Communication, too!!!!!
Hope this helps! Good luck!!!!!
2006-08-12 10:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's the little things, like remembering stuff and asking about how their day has been. I don't want a man to spend huge amounts of money on me, i'd rather have a cuddle, have my back scrubbed in the bath or for him to think about me occassionally! Not all guys forget birthdays, if you're prone to it whats stopping you getting a calendar or putting a reminder on your phone.
2006-08-12 10:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by edinburgh22001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully I think over the years the pressure has been put on you guys to remember those things so much and some of us always insist on this perfect gift that we expect you guys to guess and its like you said basically steretypically also overrated I just like my honey to remember me that day and show whatever he has for me because if i don't come right out and sya what i need how can he guess, its someone like i explained you can read between the lines
2006-08-12 10:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by pudding heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah because to go on to the big stuf you need the little stuff. You can't remember an anniversary, that's trouble. If you can't remember an anniversary that would just get her feeling like she is that important to you.
2006-08-12 10:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always the little things. a soft touch just the words i love u or i know how hard u work. it makes a woman feel apprciated and not that she is working so hard and no one notices. birthdays and anniversarys r important simply beacuse that way we know how much u love us. sometimes something from the heart is more important than any thing money can ever buy.
2006-08-12 10:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where your partnet places his/her importance. Placing a large importance on a date where in you have been dating for a set amount of time isn't to important in my eyes, every day should be just as important as another.
I wouldn't put communication as a little thing, that would be up as the biggest thing in my books.
2006-08-12 10:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The though counts but it needs at least nice words to prove it. We like to have someone to brighten up our day. Women being more sensitive often worry for others, help others and try to carry the world on their shoulders. It's always nice knowing that there's someone there to help us do it or to help us once we've done it!
2006-08-12 10:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋