The guy i've been seeing has admitted to me in the past about being terrified of getting hurt, and even attached because he's had a hard past (romantically and otherwise), but last night we were talking and he said that since things were getting to be a little more serious between us he had to tell me that he CAN'T trust people, no one, ever and that between his insecurity and distrust he won't try much - towards anything.
So my question, as for right now I've got no problems with this, we still enjoy each others company and such but I know that the lack of trying and eventually the distrust will ware on me.. should I stay and hope he learns to trust me or keep myself at a distance now so as to not get hurt so badly - I care a great deal about him.
NOTE: we're both in early 20's and have similar pasts, just reacted total opposite from them, IE I give everything and gives little
2006-08-12 03:41:18 · 14 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once you've been burned badly it's hard to trust another. Give him some time. You will earn his trust (assuming you actually are trustworthy lol). I give him props for admitting it and being upfront about it with you. That's to be admired.
2006-08-12 03:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is one of the foundations of a relationship. If he can't trust you, in spite of the past, he probably won't change his trust issues anytime soon. Sorry to say, but you haven't given him any reason not to trust you... only time will tell because in the end it will be his acceptance of trust that determines whether or not the relationship is right. He shouldn't punish you for the distrust of people from his past.
2006-08-12 03:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is never fair & beautiful. Your guy may just need some time to heal his old wounds. Give both of you a chance to know each other better. You may give a lot but get a small return but love is not meassured by how much you give or received. It's being there for your love one where he/she needed you the most. Time will make things clear.
2006-08-12 03:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is that he feels that he doesn't want to get hurt. I think he maybe playing it as he wants to be with but leave his options open for a relationship. Like the fortune cookie that I got the other day "Every woman at hart is a mother. Ever man at hart is a bachelor." I used that line before to have no connection at all but to have a booty call.
2006-08-12 03:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by drunken monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm one of those people who doesn't trust either but it didn't stop me from getting into another relationship. I would say only continue this if your willing to be an open book to him. Willing to answer questions when he asks them. Otherwise it wont work. He needs somebody to step up and prove they can be trusted. Its more work on your part but if you care for him you will do it.
2006-08-12 03:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself how much he really means to you if you really care youll have the patience to keep trying to gain his trust someone very special to me once said theyd never trust me cos like him theyd been hurt before but were gettin there, she trusts me now, and if you put in the time hopefully ur guy will end up trustin you too
2006-08-12 03:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by purple_ronnie_always 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a very patient person...then maybe you can opt for the waiting...however you know yourself better and if at this point you think you can't handle this situation then let go...goodluck i hope you make the right decision....i personally am waiting....but it is very hard...and painful...i don't know how long i can keep up with this...but that's not to scare you but tell you the truth....
2006-08-12 03:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay by his side..if you really like him...i feel the almost same,how this guy feels and i would like to find a girl that will stay by my side no matter what,but the final decision it's up to you in the end...take care
2006-08-12 03:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by and1011111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his a ss and move to arkansas, we'll get married and move to can cun mexico, live on the beach and raise the roof every nite
2006-08-12 03:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋