The guy i've been seeing has admitted to me in the past about being terrified of getting hurt, and even attached because he's had a hard past (romantically and otherwise), but last night we were talking and he said that since things were getting to be a little more serious between us he had to tell me that he CAN'T trust people, no one, ever and that between his insecurity and distrust he won't try much - towards anything.
So my question, as for right now I've got no problems with this, we still enjoy each others company and such but I know that the lack of trying and eventually the distrust will ware on me.. should I stay and hope he learns to trust me or keep myself at a distance now so as to not get hurt so badly - I care a great deal about him.
NOTE: we're both in early 20's and have similar pasts, just reacted total opposite from them, IE I give everything and gives little
2006-08-12 03:25:20 · 3 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from your writing, you have some intellect. that is good in this day and age. i believe trust or distrust is a learned trait. given an opportunity, i think in time he would trust you. otherwise, you can remain on sidelines and cheer him on. you can figure it out.
2006-08-12 03:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont stay not to be mean but where do you see this going if he is not willing to trust you and be secure about himself it will only cause both of you to hurt each other and ruin a friendship that sound like its a good one and believe me if your in your 20' then your will find someone who will care for you the way you want them to
2006-08-12 03:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by rcpapyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back off. If you mean anything at all to him, trust me, he will come for you. If he doesn,t then you have your answer, it's never going to work. I got this gut feeling that he will come for you, but he's never going to do it until you back off.
2006-08-12 03:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋