Ok so i trust my boyfriend i really do. but the people he is going camping with aren't that great. They pressure him to do stuff and he is one to go along with the crowd etc. So i'm so afraid his friends will dare him to do something with another girl (and there will be other girls there) and he will drink alcohol which also impairs your judgement but he can't seem to findout why i'm so mad at this i try and keep explaining this to him but he keeps saying oh i won't do anything but i'm still not going to be one of the outsiders. Like i'm so scared that something might happen...what should i do?
2006-08-12 01:49:17 · 33 answers · asked by Stephie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok so i was invited but he said his parents made up this rule that no friends could come and a couple of the people going there don't want me to come lik eother guys cause they think all i want to do with him is make out and just not have fun.
2006-08-12 02:08:08 · update #1
Sorry, but it sounds like you and your bf are from different worlds. You are wayyyy too mature and responsible to be hanging with someone like him. (sorry to say that, but I'm just telling you my gut feeling). You can't stop him, and you seem to know exactly what he will do... and you are probably right. If he is not mature enough to understand your view and understand your anger, he's not mature enough to say no to his devilish friends. Move on sweetie... you are too good for him. This incident is just the beginning of many, so why not cut your losses, and really take a good hard look at what is keeping you in this relationship.
2006-08-12 01:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Flyleaf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't you go with him? if other girls are there... you should be there too. Also, you need to decide if you can fully trust this guy or not.. a relationship needs to be built on trust, but if he is not trustworthy, maybe you should consider why you would even be with a guy you can't trust? If he is a crowd follower, you might be better off leaving him now and saving yourself a lot of heartbreak... I recently had to make a similar choice, and it is VERY difficult. I hope that everything works out for the best.
2006-08-12 01:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by vanillafr0st1ng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Ur Boyfriend Loves U,U can be wellassured that he would be in his limit. But If he is a seeker,he wouldcertainly take advantage of the situation.
On the other hand, If U know Ur love ,If he is faithful,U shouldn't be so anxious.
So,I feel U 2 R not really close to each other Yet and If U keepup a relation of this sort, U would never be happy !
2006-08-12 03:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Prasun B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Honey, Any relationship is based on two things Trust and Sacrifice.. Never impose your thoughts or feelings on others. They might feel suffocated and get out of the relationship.
Just tell your BF what you think is right and wrong and you will not feel happy if he does anything which you consider is not correct.
Last but not the least... There are positives and negatives in everybody we have to accept it as a whole package deal.
2006-08-12 01:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont trust him, you want to think you do but really..dont kid yourself. If there is a basis for your thinking I'd say get rid of him, your never going to be happy if you cant trust him. Alcohol doesnt' impare your judgement that much, you still have that little voice telling you not to do things-you have a choice so dont believe that bull. There is nothing you can do except go with him, if thats not possible deal with it or drop him
2006-08-12 01:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by scarlet_bat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him go. You can't be with him every second. Either everything will be fine, or he'll mess up. Either way you'll know and you can either trust him in the future, or dump him now before it gets even worse. And just an opinion, but I've never done a single thing drunk that I wouldn't do sober so the "But I was drunk" excuse never flies with me.
2006-08-12 01:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
calm down chica. u have a right to worry but u worry too much. he says he wont do anything so trust him for once. give him a lexure if it makes u feel better. nothing wrong with that. u should give him a chance. if he blows it then u'll learn a lot more about him. sometimes maybe we all have to give them a chance. thats the only way we'll find out the outcome.
2006-08-12 01:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not trust him and you can not be honest enough to admit it. You are insecure and insensitve. If you don't like his friends, then chances are they don't like you either. If you can not be a part of the crowd and enjoy the trip, then you need to let him go and hope he has a good time with his buddies.
2006-08-12 01:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute; your boyfriend is going "camping" with his friends and there will be girls and alcohol there. And you are NOT invited? What's wrong with this picture.
Take a stand...don't be the poor little dumb girl. Don't play that role. YOu go camping with him...or he doesn't go at all...or you go for good.
2006-08-12 02:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What will happen? Let's assume the worst and he does screw one of the other women. Does that mean you'll drop him like a brick?
If that's the case, perhaps the problem is your own insecurity. Do you really think that low of yourself that you think any exposure to other woman will cut you out of the picture? That's sad.
2006-08-12 01:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋